Get Your Kids On Board: Mini Challenge

How to get your kids on board with healthy eating and living Get Your Kids On Board: Mini Challenge

So you’re ready to make some healthy changes for your family. You’ve meal planned, bought supplements, gotten rid of the toxins, and are ready to make changes. In your mind, you see your family eating healthy foods, feeling better, and everyone is happy….

Then you make your first healthy meal and your kids revolt…

Sound familiar? I hear many variations of this from clients and friends when they start trying to eat healthier. Their kids are used to certain foods and are not happy when they have to make changes. Un fortunately, I think part of this is due to our culture catering to kids and having special foods for them (kids meals, separate menues for kids, endless treats and snacks shaped like cartoon characters…)

While unhealthy foods may not make kids feel immediately sick, they are filling the place of healthy foods in their diets at a critical time when the foundation for lifelong health is developing. Picky kids eating unhealthy foods become picky adults eating unhealthy foods and still bringing chips and treats for every lunch and this is when the health problems do begin.

There are also a record number of obese kids these days which is especially sad since kids should be naturally active, healthy and full of energy.

In my opinion, getting your kids on board can take a little tough love in the beginning but has vast rewards in the long run.

The Challenge

Today, I’m challenging you as the parent to put your children’s health before the immediate happiness and make some lasting changes for your family.

There are kids around the world who gladly eat liver, vegetables and even things like balut (don’t click on that if you are pregnant and have morning sickness!) but many of our kids are used to a diet high in sugars, simple starches and unhealthy fats, all which the body can be conditioned to crave. Breaking these habits is actually easier and faster in kids, though not always fun for them or you.

Here are a few suggestions that have worked with my kids and client’s kids:

  • Start viewing food as for nutrition first and enjoyment second. Make sure the majority of your diet is actually nourishing (healthy meats, vegetables, fruits, broths, good fats, etc) and minimize the non-nourishing foods (crackers, cereal, sandwiches, etc)
  • Just start serving the healthy food. Only put a little on their plates but require them to eat it before they eat anything else. If they “aren’t hungry” or don’t want to eat it, don’t push it, but don’t give them other food. They won’t starve from missing one meal because they are being picky.
  • If they ask, explain that you are coking healthier foods to help make their bodies strong and their brains smart. Tell them that they don’t have to eat anything if they truly aren’t hungry but they won’t get any special options and they are not allowed to complain (and enforce that!). At our house, complainers have to leave the table and their meal is finished.
  • Let your kids help with food preparation so they feel involved and invested in making healthy choices. If you can, also let them go to the store and help pick out colorful and healthy fruits and veggies so they will be more likely to want to try them or garden if you can.
  • Don’t underestimate them. Talk to your kids about why some foods are healthy and some aren’t and let them make their own healthy choices sometimes. When I started doing this with my five year old I was surprised to see him voluntarily refuse cake, chips or ice cream at parties when they were offered to him, even without my help.
  • Stop feeling like kids are entitled to treats and snacks as part of being a kid. For the most part, our kids are bombarded with sweets and unhealthy treats from a really young age. From birthday parties to school snack times to the endless kid friendly options. This is a huge disservice to them since this is such a critical time in lifelong health and we are encouraging forming bad habits with food.
  • Read books like Paleo Pals or Eat Like a Dinosaur to help them understand and want to make healthy changes.

The Contest:

I know that school lunches and snacks can be especially tough to send healthy options for kids, so to help out, I’m giving away a case of That’s It Fruit Bars. They contain only dried fruit (no nuts, dairy or grains) so they are safe for school, even if allergies are an issue and my kids (5,4,2,1) loved them!

Enter below and then leave a comment telling me what you do to help your kids eat healthier (or what you will do if you’re new!) The contest only runs until July 8th, so enter fast!

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  • Jenn

    I have tried a lot of things you suggested above but still get complaints so need to do the complaint suggestions and have him leave the table.  My son is very good at holding out if he knows a better meal is coming along; like going to MomMom’s house.  Take this morning for example, he asked me to pack him a lunch for camp (lunch is provided) so I suggested apple, banana, peach, turkey but didn’t want any of those so he didn’t get anything.  I think it is the companing part because that is what he did and I need to put a stop to that.

  • Dana

    I think the hardest thing for us around here is going to be to get rid of the Kashi Cereal bars and Cheerios in the morning. Over the last several months with each shopping trip I have been cutting out processed foods where ever I can. I had also been watching sugar content and moving to “real food.” Only in recent weeks have I learned how bad grain even “healthy” whole grains are. And getting rid of sugar. I know for my body when I would eat a low carb diet I lost weight and felt much better but I thought it would be fine for them to eat brown rice, whole wheat and things like that. They have never had a lot of candy since I didn’t want to start them out that way. They are 4 and 2. My oldest has dairy and peanut allergies so that makes it sort of easy to say no to cakes, cookies and the like when at parties or the doctors office (they always have a cookie ready to give out at the end of the visit). Triskets will be hard to rid ourselves of for the kids too. They always want a snack and will eat plenty of fruit and pumpkin seeds. I am not supposed to give my oldest any nuts yet so right now I am lacking in the snack department. I have bought them real fruit leather and made some at home. I make fresh fruit smoothies and add a good bit of spinach to them and they love those. I just need some good ideas for veggie snacks that they will eat. I have been known to add a lot of veggies to the food processor and mix it all in my meatloaf. They will eat it up.  :)

  • Drail

    I have very direct conversations about food with my kids…. recently I measured out just how much sugar was in a can of coke and put it in a clear class cup for my kids to see!  Next, I went on google images and showed them a couple of gruesome pictures of diabetic foot and eye problems.  It was the visual shock value  I was going for!  It may have worked somewhat because I was told that at a recent birthday party my nine year old son asked for a bottle of water rather than taking the coke that was offered!  Definitely not an easier job, but I am not around them at all times so I want them to be making the choices on their own.

  • Brianna

    I have a two year old that has been off grains and sugars for a whole month now. It was difficult getting him to eat meat and veggies at first, but now he loves them! His favorite foods are home made yogurt, green beans with lots of butter, and chicken soup. I found that it’s okay to let him get a little hungry. It’s just that little nudge he needs to get him going in the right direction!

  • Stacie Post

    I am lucky that I got to start “fresh” with my son, who is only 18 months and likes most of the foods we eat. It was such a battle with my stepdaughter, whose mother always gives her what she wants and will pparently even make separate meals for her at home (usually hot dog, canned corn, chicken nuggets, etc.) exactly like you said, we give her no options. She gets served what we are having. She doesn’t have to eat it if she isn’t hungry, but that’s it and no “snacks” or desserts!! It took a while but now at nearly 9 she is usually on board.

  • Kristinfriesen

    My kids actually eat really well because we have been working on this for a long time. The only area where I still struggle is getting my 5 year old to eat vegetables. I think they will do much better than me when it comes to giving up grains and sugar!

  • http://www.loveandbacon.com loveandbacon

    I don’t have kids (yet!), so I have the advantage of starting any future kids on healthy eating right from the start.  I plan to have them involved quite a bit in making our meals. Once they’re old enough to notice that they’re “different” from their friends, I’ll explain why we’re eating like this.

  • JustTheFlax

    Get my kids involved by taking them with me and letting them make healthy food choices, then getting involved in the kitchen.

  • http://profiles.google.com/cjsiders Cassandra Roy

    Not much to be teaching yet since she’s not two, but I don’t give in to the tantrums and I’m fiercly dedicated to keeping well-meaning (stupid) family members from putting things in her mouth.

  • Nicole

    When we went paleo, my son went paleo and he loves it!!!

  • Bex

    I have been making your applesauce coconut flour muffins to always have on hand, and my daughter will happily leave the Cliff Z Bars in the pantry if I do.
    My son will bypass the cereal if I have omelette muffins pre-baked and waiting in the fridge.
    I just have to stay ahead of them!

  • Bethager

    We have been going to the local farmers market and getting fresh fruits and veggies. I have also been trying to get one new veggie a week for my children to try. They love fruits but it is really hard to get them to eat veggies, especially something new and different.

  • Jessica West

    My son’s favorite breakfast is a fruit and coconut milk smoothie. I add yogurt (plain greek or goat’s milk) to give him some protein. Our biggest issue is his refusal to eat meat, so I try to get protein in wherever I can, which usually means more dairy. Lately I’ve been working hard to replace his “addiction” to goldfish crackers – I’ve made a couple of different grain-free crackers and then just give him those instead. So far he hasn’t liked them much, but he’s stopped demanding goldfish, so we must be getting somewhere!

  • Jessica

    my children have multiple food allergies/sensitivities coupled with feeding problems and so over time our feeding needs have changed drastically.  Over the years we have spent countless hours with nutritionists who encouraged us to feed them anything they were willing to eat.  No matter how often I asked for better/healthier alternatives we were never given much info.  With my third baby we decided to do it ourselves.  After tons of research (this site has been a godsend) I have a healthy and happy 18month old who eats everything! and the older boys have been joining in because we have included them from the beginning and showed them why its healthier.  They never ate poorly to begin with, no sugar or processed foods for the past 2 years, but encouraging trying new foods particularly veggies has been a bit of a struggle.  My oldest is a picky eater and struggles with food textures and smells, but we he is required to try a bite of everything we serve and is finding he likes a lot of it.  

  • Justine StewArt

    I read my 4 year old a book called “The Two Bite Club”. It’s about a brother and sister who have to try two little bites of new foods that correspond with the food groups in mypyramid. He loves it and wants to be in the two bite club so he try’s new food! With my 6 month old, I make her food (fresh from the farmers market) with the baby bullet. I love that there are no preservatives and I know just what’s going into her food!

  • Breckfisks

    For all my kiddos I had a rule of “no sugar before 2″. None of them had any sweets before the age of two. I received a lot of surprising complaints and resistance from some family members (“no birthday cake on the 1st birthday?” tragedy.), but I was determined. Now people are amazed at how the kiddos go for fruit before the cookies for a treat. We also have a “one-meal” plan for dinner (most of the time), and any complainers go upstairs to their rooms.

    The challenge for me will be taking out the grains. I eat very little grains (mostly paleo), but the kiddos have their cereals and porridge in the morning. Preparing healthier snacks ahead of time is where I’m focusing on this mini-challenge.

  • RBlood

    The hardest part for us is when our children are outside the home. We are pretty good at home, but the minute the kids go to grandmas… forget it. I used to stress about this, but Ive now realized that as long as they are eating well in our home and I’m teaching them to make good choices, the world will keep spinning. :)  

  • Karen

    I keep my kids involved by having them help me plan meals and choose food from the store.  We talk about eating healthy to stay healthy, and thanks to books like Paleo Pals and Eat Like a Dinosoar, they are starting to understand why and be excited about it!  But finding healthy and affordable snacks is always a challenge.  I do so much cooking and am happy to do it, but it can be a little overwhelming at times.  Sometimes it’s nice to find a truly healthy snack you can just buy!

  • Azcardsgal

    I find that there is always someone who is hungry in my house!  I have a 15 year old boy who is big, strong and plays sports.  He is ALWAYS hungry!!!  I try to feed him all the foods I eat and restrict the ones he shouldn’t have, but the fighting is wearing me down!!!  He eats soooooo much and it is also getting very expensive!  But we will stick with it!  I also have found that it is better to start a little more slowly!  Start by implementing things a couple at a time, instead of just taking everything away at once.  We started out by having no soda and no chips and sweets.  This alone has been tough, so we will have to continue to go slow.  I have been on this lifestyle for about 6 weeks and have lost almost 20 lbs.

  • http://www.theiveyleague.blogspot.com/ Kati

    I try my best to feed my 18 month old a lot of “paleo/primal” type foods.  Egg, avocado, tomato, meats (when she’ll eat it!)  I don’t offer her dessert and she doesn’t drink juice at home. If they don’t know any different, they don’t know what they’re missing.  Yet :-)

  • Holly1414

    The hardest thing for my family is cutting bread an tortillas. We’ve never had sodas or junk food in the house, but my husband and the boys love a quesadilla or peanut butter and jelly sandwich. My 12-year old is pretty good – if I explain that something is a healthier choice, he’ll happily give it a try. He even likes spinach in his morning fruit smoothie. My 5-year old will wolf down a veggie tray if given the opportunity, but loves his chocolate milk and bread. I am trying to work on a decent ratio of cocoa powder and stevia, but no luck so far. I think getting him more involved in the shopping and cooking will help. He’s already really excited about WM’s laundry detergent that he and I made last weekend, and the lotion bars, deodorant bars, and remineralizing tooth powder that we will be making as soon as my MRH order is delivered. He’s even excited about makin water kefir next week when my grains come, but idk if he’ll actually drink it as he doesn’t like anything with any sort of fizz. We’ll see! :)

  • Sara

    My 4 year old daughter naturally likes healthy foods, but loves sweets too. If we could just figure out a way to get rid of grandmas bad influence on her. I make sweet potato chips in the oven and let her eat plain lettuce with 100% grass fed beef from our farm on it. Also don’t let others persuade your children not to like something because they don’t. Don’t let them say yuck when your child eats something they don’t like. I haven’t met a vegetable I didn’t like!!

  • andi

    I’m 38 weeks pregnant now, so I’m really hoping to avoid a lot of the pickiness by serving only healthy foods right from the start. I think the real challenge will be keeping the sweets away from myself, so I don’t turn into the bad influence! ;)

  • Grace8391

    I have started talking to my kids (4,3) about what vitamins and nutrients are in the specific foods that they are eating, e.g. carrots have vitamin a which helps our eyes. That at least gets them interested in their veggies and they retain more than I would think!

  • Samantha

    Our children eat what we eat at meal times. Transitioning a 2 year old is challenging, as we have removed everything from her diet but gluten (sandwiches and cereals). I have been looking for alternative snack options that are quick to serve, spicing up the fruits and vegetable options, all on a limited grocery budget. But know everything we do now, is for long term health and even financial benefit!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001976826847 Michelle Brumgard

    I’m thankful my daughter was born with my husband’s love of salad.  However, she has developed a sweet tooth no thanks to me and other family members.  We have helped her to learn to eat healthy by her just overhearing our conversations about health.  She has also started to discover the difference of how too much junk makes her stomach hurt.  With her entering school, it will be interesting to see what choices she makes on her own.  My biggest tip and think we do – just don’t have it in the house if you don’t want the kids to eat it!  What she eats at others houses, I let go.  She is in our home the most and the example is being set here.

  • Ceciliapowers

    We garden and have the kids help with that. One of mine lovers making up her own recipes and had been cooking since she was about 2 or 3

  • Chantel

    I like your no complaining at the table policy. We don’t generally have too much trouble, but we do have one whiner so i will implement this rule. The kids know we eat healthy food at home and since that is their only option, I can only remember a couple times when they chose to go to bed hungry. The other day, one of the girls asked me why we never eat kid food at our house. I laughed and said I don’t believe in it. :)

  • amy

    I guess I’m lucky. I grew up poor, my mom was the local fish lady and we had a huge garden so we ate what we had. We also had a “one bite” rule. I do the same with my kids. Try it before you say that you don’t like it. Usually it goes well. They complain more about having to eat “cooked” veggies, as they prefer raw.
    To give them easy access, they are 7 & 10, I have a drawer in the fridge that they can snack from and a cabinet that they are allowed to pick from between meals. Filled with veggies, sprouts, yogurt, dried fruits, nuts, etc.

  • Michelle

    I couldn’t agree more with you on the importance of instilling healthy habits in our kids from the beginning. I think all of your suggestions are really helpful. My daughter is 4 and she loves to help in the kitchen. That has been a huge encouragement for her to want to eat whole, healthy foods. And she loves being able to pick out what fruits & veggies she wants to have. Giving kids good options & then letting them chose  is a great way of encouraging change & commitment in their health.

  • brookiebaby

    One of the most practical things we do is to always have a veggie tray available.  It happened on accident (I was unable to attend an event & had the veggie tray w/no place to go!), but it was meant to be!  :)  Now, they know if they tell me they are hungry, the veggies will be coming out.  We have other go-to goodies that they really like: seaweed, nuts, some dried fruit, smoothies.  We landed in Germany yesterday (international move!), so we haven’t had the best food choices recently.  First thing today: we’re headed for healthy groceries.  The good news is that I can get grass-fed meat, raw milk & lots of veggies now!   

  • Lisa Doodeman

    My 8, 5 & 2 year olds are my fussiest eaters. I blend up the vegies in many meals so they will eat it. Any sauces I make, eg bolognaise, contain onions, carrots, garlic, zucchini, capsicum and celery blended before adding it to the meat to brown. I make many blended vegetable soups for lunch. Slow cooker stews I blend for them. They will happily help to chop up the different vegetables to add to the blender or soup. They don’t mind eating it if they don’t see the different vegetables at the end. I have a rule that they don’t get offered any other food if they don’t eat their dinner but I don’t mind blending the food so they will eat it. My older children will happily eat most of the healthy food I prepare for them. They eat more vegetables now that I have taken away the grains. Cabbage never used to be a favourite, but now often they will ask if we can have cabbage with bacon or cabbage noodles.  Cauliflower “mashed potatoes” and cauliflower “rice” are other options used. I tried sweet potato “fettucine” which the younger ones ate although they said they didn’t like it. 
    We have been living for a number of years as gf/cf so bread was an occasional food only but I’m having a hard time weaning them completely off rice cakes which were a staple for lunch. I allow them a couple of times a week for the younger ones, and a bowl of gf cornflakes once a week as long as the other days are egg based. I’m hoping to reduce this further but at the moment it is a compromise. Days have enough battles of their own without adding food battles to the list.

  • Amy S.

    All the ideas in this blog post are great, and I try to follow many of them. The biggest (and most challenging) thing for us is only having healthy snacks and options available and doing so on a minimal budget. I felt like I was doing pretty good until the upheaval of moving recently and having relatives around that definitely have that view of kids being entitled to sugary snacks and candy. I have some work to do and this post is my new motivation.

  • http://rockinlikeahermitcrab.blogspot.com AdronsCatherine

    My kids adore “Eat Like a Dinosaur”, and listen to The Cave Kids regularly. They go to the Farmers’ Market with me every week, and get to pick out and pay for the veggies they want! I let them help cook, and I serve them foods that they profess to dislike, but don’t force them to eat them. As a result, they have learned to try most foods, and they will eat nearly anything I serve them. The baby (3) always gets excited when I cook paleo treats for him, and squeals, “Gooten fwee for MEEEEE???” LOL! He always asks if foods are gluten free, and that makes me smile!

  • StaceyC

    I am blessed to have one child who will try anything and loves salads and other healthy foods. My other child is more challenging. I am trying to find recipes that are different and interesting and am going to let her help in the kitchen with me more. She loves helping prepare fresh veggies and fruits. Hopefully, she will start realizing what she has been missing out on by being picky!

  • Waterloggedrvrat

    Im actually very fortunate to have kids that enjoy fruits veggies and meats. I am focusing on cutting my 3 year olds milk intake because it is a bit excessive. My 16 month old is still nursing so I don’t have that concern with him.

  • Janet

    I am trying to do small things we can afford, like using only healthy oils, purchasing organic fruits and veggies that are on the “dirty” lists, and buying grassfed meats when possible. It’s very hard financially, but our health is very important to me.
    I am using a lot of coconut oil, but I have one daughter that despises coconut. She didn’t know I used it in biscuits until I let her eat them several times before telling her. She is now not afraid to try something with CO in it.:)
    I am also refusing to buy packaged sweets and cereals unless I know the ingredients are good for us. If I don’t bring it in the house, they won’t eat it.:)

  • Melissa Shirley

    I’ve made every little thing my kid has eaten since he was born.  He’s almost two years old now, and we went to a playdate at a new friend’s house.  The mother brought forth a tray of chicken nuggets.  I chose not to say anything, because I didn’t want to come off as overly righteous….Wolfie took a bite spit it back into his hand and gave the rest of his nugget to his new friend.  We shared an apple instead.

  • Katejo7

    I have  found that what is really healthy in helping my kids eat heathy is having them participate in preparing the food for the meals.  One child might wash the vegetables and another I will have chop the vegetables (only my oldest), one will arrange the food on a plate, or dress the salad.  In the summer, my children will pick the food from the garden, even shopping for the healthy food makes them want to try it.  They love to participate and create a meal from start to finish, and they LOVE trying what they made.  It somehow tastes better to them when they have had a hand in creating it.  

  • Kbleblond

    We have been eating healthy, but weren’t aware of how bad whole grains are for us.  So we’re making changes to cut out sugars, carbs, etc.  I have 2 boys, 3 and 11 months.  The oldest is picky, but we give him what we’re eating, or he doesn’t eat.   My 11 month old will eat anything I put in front of him.  Thanks for the giveaway!

  • Terri

    I am a FB fan and get your newsletter. I love your suggestion of having complainers leave the table and be done with dinner. Not sure if my just three year old is too young for that but I think we’ll try.

  • Linda

    My oldest started out eating healthy, but that was derailed when he started school!  I find that it helps to talk about where food comes from.  We explained how chicken nuggets are made, and now he hasn’t been asking for them now that he knows.  Yay! 

  • CultivatedLives

    I have vegetables sliced and ready to go for easy access!!

  • Mclanek

    We joined a CSA three years ago and have gone to the farmers market every other week to pick up our share. We happily allow our kids to sample food at the market. It’s amazing what they are willing to eat there even if they won’t touch it at home. My son even enjoys the “green juice”! (He barely touches veggies at home.)

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  • Christina

    We started transitioning family to paleo’ish style of eating after I have been paleo for a year. Son has ADD syptoms, daughter constipation and bloated tummy. (He’s 8, she’s 4). Husband still struggling too. We try to rarely use bread. Kids like lettuce wraps. Stir fries are difficult since they still avoid mixing food. I do serve soaked white rice or yellow potatoes occasionally. It also helps to use Planet Box lunchbox for school. Keep things interesting!

  • Bayjessi

    While I don’t have children of my own yet, I am starting a family child care home and plan to serve healthy foods and as much fresh and organic produce as I can!

  • Kim J

    My son (3) now likes all meats, all fruits, and most vegetables that I serve.  I try to get his favorites frequently, it seems to help if there’s something he doesn’t like to eat with strawberries.  My daughter likes just about everything I give her (she’s 10 months and has never had grains or sugar).  Lunches were hard at first, and it’s still tough at school when they have pizza and ice cream day!  We talk a lot about sugar and how it makes him feel.  And he enjoys reading “Eat Like a Dinosaur”!

  • Hbhensley

    My daughter is only 8 months old right now, but I’m trying to learn all I can about raising her up to love and choose good, wholesome foods!

  • Jacey

    The best meal of the day for my kids is breakfast. So I work really hard to start their day off right. It was a process getting them to try new things and leave the cereal, eggo waffles smothered with syrup, and big bowls filled with cream of wheat. My three kids (ages 9, 7, 5) like feeling full and having lots of energy to last all morning. My biggest challenge is that my husband is not on board with the no grains…..hence he still eats cereal each day. He takes them to get a hot dog or worse, KFC! Ugh….not sure this will ever change, but I try my best to feed my kids the best I can. The rest you can’t waste too much energy stressing/worrying about.

  • Ahoc

    I make them come up with healthy snacks that they want to try. They love using the dehydrator and putting together different combinations of foods and flavors that they like. I still have issues with my husband bringing home junk food and tempting them, but they are starting to realize they do not feel good after eating the processed food.