545: Mariah Sage on Enjoying Parenting and Releasing Mom Guilt Through Simple Shifts

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I’m here with Mariah Sage and I was excited to chat with her about parenting, how to release mom guilt and how to raise empowered kids. She uses a combination of intuition, systems, and clear applicable skills to create some really tangible shifts here, and we talk about a lot of those today. She has a background in psychology, and has spent nearly a decade working in the childcare industry. And now her focus and passion in life is to help families live and work with more harmony.

In this episode, we go through things like why today’s moms feel increased pressure and mom guilt compared to other generations. We touch on the reason moms can feel like they’re losing themselves in motherhood and how to move past that, why kids need certainty and systems, and why leaning into this can relieve a lot of that mom stress. Mariah shares some practical steps to start implementing systems that make family life easier.

Episode Highlights With Mariah Sage

  • Why today’s moms feel increased pressure and mom guilt compared to previous generations
  • We can do it all, but not all at once
  • The reason why moms can feel like they are losing themselves in motherhood
  • Why what we model matters more than what we say
  • Kids need certainty and systems, and leaning into this can help relieve some of the mom stress
  • Practical steps to start implementing systems to make things easier
  • How cultural beliefs about parenting are making things harder
  • The importance of play and boredom and how to reincorporate these if you haven’t done them
  • Simple systems that make family life much easier

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Katie: Hello, and welcome to “The Wellness Mama Podcast.” I’m Katie from wellnessmama.com and wellnesse.com. That is wellness with an E on the end. And this episode is all about parenting, and how to release mom guilt and enjoy parenting more through some simple shifts that make your whole family happier. I’m here with Mariah Sage, who does exactly this. She helps parents raise empowered kids, improve their family dynamics, and actually enjoy the parenting process while releasing things like mom guilt and societal expectations that are relatively new to our generation. She uses a work of a combination of intuition, systems, and clear applicable skills to create some really tangible shifts here, and we talk about a lot of those today. She has a background in psychology, and nearly a decade working in the childcare industry. And now her focus and passion in life is to help families live and work with more harmony.

 

In this episode, we go through things like why today’s moms feel increased pressure and mom guilt compared to other generations? How we can do it all, but not all at once and what to do instead? The reason why of moms can feel like they’re losing themselves in motherhood and how to move past that? Why what we model matters more than what we say and how to use this to help our family have a calmer life? Why kids need certainty and systems, and why leaning into this can relieve a lot of that mom stress? As well as some practical steps to start implementing systems that make family life easier. And I will have links in the show notes at wellnessmama.fm to more resources on this topic, as well as to Mariah’s work if you want to continue learning from her. But without further ado, let’s join Mariah Sage. Mariah, welcome. Thanks so much for being here.

 

Mariah: Thank you. I’m excited.

 

Katie: Me too. And we’re gonna talk about what I think are some really, really important topics for moms today. But before we jump into that, I have a note in my show notes that you were homeschooled until 10th grade and you got to grow up traveling a lot with your family. And I’d love to hear a little bit about that, and maybe also probably how that informed maybe your approach to adulthood and parenting. And I’m sure there was flow over into a lot of aspects of life.

 

Mariah: Yeah, absolutely. So I grew up in a big family, and I was homeschooled until 10th grade. And my mom has actually been in the coaching industry since the ’80s. So I like to say that I grew up in the back of a seminar room. So my parents held workshops all over the world, and my siblings and I got to grow up, traveling with them and being a part of their work, which had a huge influence on what I do today.

 

Katie: Wow. That sounds amazing. And speaking of the work that you do today, I think there’s gonna be so many important points we’re gonna get into today. To start broad, I think it’s not a secret based on social media interactions and memes, moms today seem to be largely overwhelmed. And there seems to be a lot more pressure on our generation of moms than there has been in previous generations. I know before she died, just conversations I had with my grandmother, for instance, like, she was blown away at some of the things that our generation internalizes, and focuses on, and hyper-focuses on when it comes to motherhood. And I remember her telling me, like, it actually isn’t supposed to be this difficult. Like, take a deep breath. And you have so many great points related to this and so many tangible systems for people. But I think to start broad, let’s talk about what does it mean to have this more relaxed and eased approach to parenting? Because I think it has become this huge, stressful thing that maybe it doesn’t have to be, and you explain this so well.

 

Mariah: Yeah, definitely. I love that story of it being kind of something that’s…it’s new, really, right, that older generations had a better understanding for the way we could approach parenting, and that it can just be this, like, natural part of our lives instead of having to be the only part of our lives or the thing that takes over our identity or that…you know, I think the messaging we get is when you’re a mom that if you’re not exhausted, and if you’re not overwhelmed, and if you’re not kind of self-sacrificing, then you’re doing something wrong, right? But actually that, you know, there’s a truth that, you know, parenting is always gonna be hard, right? I mean, kids are difficult. They will challenge you. And there’s always going to be difficult parts of having kids.

 

But ultimately, it doesn’t have to be as hard as we make it, right? There can be a sense of ease. And having an easeful approach to parenting to me means that when those challenges come up, that you know how to respond, that you have a plan. That you’re able to stay in your center, even when there’s chaos around you or when one of your kids is going through a difficult phase or when any of the, you know, natural challenges of parenting come around, that we have systems and we have approaches that allow us to know how to deal with them without getting completely thrown off our center.

 

Katie: Yeah, I think that’s really important. And I don’t remember the exact words of it but I saw a meme one time that encompassed so much of it. And it was basically, like, I’ll just be over here trying to keep my kids, like, physically fed and emotionally stable without helicoptering, while, you know, being like keeping the house clean, but not too clean. Because realistic, it was like this whole list of contrasting expectations that moms often feel in today’s culture. And I do think there’s an element of that that’s perpetuated by social media because we only typically put the good parts of our lives on social media. And in previous generations, we weren’t exposed to every other mother on the planet, you know, all the time, just like we weren’t exposed to news from all over the world, all the time. And there are psychological approaches to that. But I think it also touches on this idea of mom guilt. And I would love for you to kind of delve into this, maybe explain where this is coming from, why we’re seeing this so much more in our generation than we have in previous generations.

 

Mariah: Yeah, really, I think so much of it, like you said, is this social media culture, right? It’s like this thing that being a mom has to look a certain way. And so a big part of what I teach parents is that, you know, being a great parent is really about drowning out the noise, and it can feel ironic to say that as a sort of parenting expert, right? But ultimately, I tell people, you know, let go of the experts, drop the advice, and get back to, what is your approach to parenting? What are your family values, and how do you kind of silence all of that and get back to who you are and what’s important to you as a family?

 

Because otherwise, the pressure, it’s impossible, right? There is this pressure like, you know, you need to have a great career, you need to be the perfect mom, you need to look Instagram ready every single day. And that’s just not realistic for everybody, right? And you can do all of those things, but you can’t do them all at once. And, you know, you can’t try to be the outside version of what motherhood has been made out to be. And so, you know, moms are being taught that they should feel guilty. They’re being taught that if they’re not perfect, then, you know, that they are doing a bad job. It’s really hard to overcome this cultural messaging and know that we’re allowed to be happy, and we’re allowed to have fun, and we’re allowed to care for ourselves. And what we’re being told is that losing yourself in motherhood is normal. And that doesn’t have to be the case, right? Actually, the truth is that we can be the moms that we wanna be and we can still have the lives we wanna have, and we can still be the people we wanna be. But that’s not what society is telling us.

 

Katie: Yeah. So two things you just said, I think one being, we can do it all but not all at once is such an important point. And also that there is this mothers seeming to get lost in motherhood, which didn’t seem to be the case in previous generations nearly as much, either. And objectively, there also is more I think on a lot of our plates than there used to be just because there’s a lot more in a fast-paced world and we’re managing more. And I know when I was a kid, my parents weren’t having to figure out how to help me navigate social media, and there just wasn’t as many factors to navigate. But I also think you’re right, that there’s these societal perceptions that we internalize.

 

And I’d love to talk a little bit more about that, how do we not lose ourselves in motherhood and why is it so important? Because I think there’s been a little bit of mis-messaging around this idea of self-care that actually maybe perpetuates more mom guilt, because then it is actually intensifying the pressure that, oh, if we just added that to our to-do list and did that right, then we would have enough energy to do everything else perfect. When, if you go back to the core of it, and kind of go back to first principles, the most powerful thing we can do for our children is what we model, not what we say, and how many of us meet, included, for sure, different times are modeling an unhealthy way of navigating that. So I’d love to just kind of go deeper on that concept.

 

Mariah: Definitely. Yeah, I feel like that’s something that, you know, I always say my mom models so well for me is that, you know, she was, of course, an amazing, dedicated mom who made tons of sacrifices for us, but she also really modeled for us that taking care of yourself and living the life you wanna live, is part of being a good parent. Right?

 

I mean, it really is… It’s easy to lose yourself in motherhood because of all the pressure. But ultimately, the way you live your life is the way your kids are going to live their lives. And when I look back on my childhood, the times when I was the happiest were the times when my mom was the happiest. I always remember that to be true. And I think that’s so important for moms to remember is that, you know, your kids are so attuned to you. They’re so sensitive to you. And it’s so subtle, but they pick up on everything. So it’s not just the external things you do. It’s like the way you feel and the way you be in your life is what your kids are going to pick up on, and the way they’re going to live their lives, and the way they’re going to respond to the life around them. And so, the thing of self-care, I totally agree, it’s like there’s this messaging out there, like, oh, self-care, have a glass of wine, take a bath, do all these things. Right? But is that actually teaching us to really take care of ourselves and is it actually giving moms a practical way to take care of themselves in their lives with their kids? Right?

 

Because I think you tell a lot of moms, you know, double down on self-care. And the question is, like, how do I do that? You know, like, practically, what does that look like as a mom? And so that’s where I believe family systems really come in and having good rhythms and having good boundaries, and having systems set up so that when breakdowns happen with your kids, you know how to respond and it doesn’t have to become this thing that builds up over time and continues to be an issue, right? Or, you know, when you’re stressed out and you need a break as a mom, how do you actually get that with your kids? You know, what does that look like practically as a mother? And so that’s where having systems and having, you know, ways that you clearly handle things in your family is kind of the key to being able to find yourself again as a mother, or to not lose yourself in the first place.

 

Katie: Yeah, I think that’s so key And I’ve noticed that in my own life, as I figured it out slowly, I think I was a slow learner in this but that often the mom fatigue and that overwhelm, it doesn’t actually come from all the stuff we have to do, although there can be an element of that. But it comes from things like question fatigue, when kids don’t have certainty about these systems and what’s going on, and so they have to continually ask us, and we are the bottleneck of the questions. But also on that modeling piece, I had a pretty harsh realization personally on this recently where I noticed my older daughter who was… She was the reason I kind of started to actually face my trauma and unpack a lot of things was seeing her see me in the mirror, looking at myself, and registering in her face that I was looking at myself with this, like, very self-critical eye, and that’s probably the first time she had ever thought to look at her own body in a self-critical way. So it led to this beautiful journey of healing that trauma and healing my body.

 

But then, the last few months, I had noticed she was just like, focused on being small and tiny and, like, wanted to have, like, tiny shoes and not like grow. And I couldn’t figure out why. And then it was that harsh realization of, oh, it’s because I’ve been focused on being small these last couple years. And I’ve never verbalized that, but she picked up on the energy. And it was a good reminder, like, oh, now I need to model being strong and nourishing my body and the languaging that goes along with that. I think the modeling is super, super important.

 

But I’m really also glad that you brought up the systems aspects. And I’d love to talk a little bit about maybe some tangible ways that parents can start bringing more of these systems and bringing more ease into parenting. Because like I said, I saw in my own life, it’s not the getting it done necessarily, there’s a time and a place when we’ve just added too much to the calendar but often, it’s the uncertainty or the managing it all in our head, and then the kids having to depend on us for answers because there aren’t clear systems. At least for me, that was a huge cause of stress. So I’d love to hear from you. I know you do a lot of work in this area with, what are some tangible ways we can start bringing that ease back in?

 

Mariah: Yeah, definitely. Yeah, it’s funny, because I think that, you know, family systems are so important. And to me, they are kind of the surface level in family, right? So they hold the container for all the other parts of our family. So they hold the container for the relationships, and the connections, and all of the kind of things that make up really being a family. And so in order to set up systems that really work, what is kind of funny is that you have to let go of the systems in the beginning. So a lot of the time, the beginning steps are counterintuitive, and it’s that you have to first look at your family and say, okay, have we gotten caught up in power struggles? Are there breakdowns that are happening every day? Are there conflicts that are happening over and over again? And how can we unwind and let go of some of those things and come back to our connections, and our relationships, and our dynamics, and the things that make us a family?

 

And so what that looks like in the beginning, a lot of the time, is going out of resistance to your kids completely. So what happens is that when there’s not systems and there’s not that predictability, like you said, that kids really need, then stress comes in, right, and kids become more difficult, and they start asking a million questions every day, and they start resisting the rules and boundaries because they look for certainty. And so, when we can kind of let go and reconnect with them, then we open up space to implement and to insert new systems and new boundaries that work for our family.

 

Because if you try to start from a place of power struggles and difficult things that have built up and mom is stressed, and overwhelmed, and tired, and kids don’t know what to expect, and then you wanna come in and say, “Okay, now these are all the new rules. And this has been your schedule. And, you know, this is the new system.” Then your kids are gonna resist you completely, right? They’re not going to be able to go with the flow. And so that’s always the first step is let go a little bit, you know, don’t ever let go of those bottom-line boundaries. But, you know, choose your battles, ultimately. Choose your battles and kind of let go of the need to control everything and know that the structure can come from that kind of letting go.

 

Katie: Yeah, that’s a great point. And then from there, what does it mean…? I think maybe, like, the idea of family systems might be a somewhat new concept, to some people listening. And I talked about this a little bit in the context of my own realization, which was in business, I had all these systems for everything. And when I hit my point of almost complete burnout, I felt all this stress, and I thought about letting all the business stuff go, because I was like, “I can’t keep all these plates in the air,” but realized the stresses isn’t actually coming from the business. It’s coming from home. So why is that?

 

And realizing, oh, it’s because in business, I have clearly defined systems and I know where things are going. And oh, yeah, I let people actually be involved on the team and have autonomy in their roles. And we’ve built a culture around that. And what if I applied these same ideas at home? But I think, like, even understanding the broad concept of that, it can be hard sometimes to materialize in your head what good family systems look like. So I would love for you to talk to us a little about, like, what are some starting points for good family systems that we can put in place? I fully agree with your point about it has to be done, like, with good leadership and aligning motivations versus outside force, which is, of course, we want our children to be internally motivated, not mom forcing them in the long-term. And I know, anybody who’s had a two-year-old knows firsthand as a mom, you can’t force a child to do anything. So what are some of the stepping stones into creating these good family systems?

 

Mariah: Yeah, so I think you’re so right that family systems can feel foreign because we’re not taught to ultimately run our families like a business. But that’s, you know, what you said about family culture, or what you said about business culture is true for family culture too, right. So your kids need to be able to feel autonomy. They need to be able to be involved in the rules. And they need to be able to feel like a part of things and a part of the team. And so, starting out, what I always tell people is look for the one part of your day that’s the most challenging. If you just wanna start with one system, look for the one part of the day where you’re having the biggest breakdowns over and over and over again, and choose a predictable way of dealing with it. So, you know, the thing about my approach is that I don’t teach people a specific parenting style, because I don’t believe that there’s one right way to raise kids, right? We all have our own style. And the best way to parent is the way that reflects you, and who you are, and your values. And so, instead of looking for some outside system that’s going to be the right way to do your morning routine or the right way to handle bedtime, it’s like look into your family, and see what needs to happen, and keep it really simple.

 

So for some people, bedtime routine is the same four things happen in the same order every night. And that’s all it is, right? And then just focus on that, and do that over and over and over again. And consistency is so key with any kind of system, because so much of the time, you know, it’s probably one of the biggest breakdowns I see that parents deal with is they come to me and they say, you know, “We tried everything, right? We tried this and tried that. We tried that.” And I say, “Okay, well, how long did you try it for?” And people are like, “Oh, well, we did that for three days. And then it didn’t work. And then we did this for three days and it didn’t work.” And so the thing about systems is that they really require consistency, especially for children. And so, you know, if you choose a system you’re going to implement, do it for a month before you decide if it works or not because it doesn’t matter what the system is or what the approach is as much as it matters that you are consistent with it. And then over time, your kids will adjust, and your family will find your rhythm and your flow.

 

Katie: That’s a great point. And I think, at least for me, I can say I was getting in my own way with systems at different times, because of some of these factors like mom guilt and some of these cultural beliefs about parenting, where I had to unpack myself and realize I was feeling guilty or bad about having my kids actually do things around the house. And, like, oh, well, where is that coming from? Because logically, it’s actually great for everybody if they are involved around the house, and if they can feel ownership of something. And I got to unpack parts of my control-freak nature or parts of this idea that I needed to do everything for them.

 

And that actually led to a shift that I’ve talked about before, which is now one of my core parenting ideals, which is that I don’t do anything for them that they are capable of doing themselves. And that is a consistent thing. And so they know that. And so when they at age 4 or 5 are capable of learning to do their own laundry, they do. And then now this is a thing they take ownership for. And it’s beautiful because there’s natural consequences built-in, just like there are for us as adults where if I don’t do my laundry, I don’t have clothes to wear. And they learn that lesson. And they get to attach that natural motivation, natural consequence, versus me being this external mediator of you must do this thing because I said so. It’s like teaching the natural lesson. And also, I think the other part of that is them getting to feel like they actually are contributing to the family because they are, and like creating a family culture that encompasses all of that. Let’s talk a little bit more about that, on that note, of kind of the cultural beliefs about parenting that seem to have shifted in the last couple generations especially.

 

Mariah: Yeah. Yeah, there are so many beliefs that we’re fed these days. And again, I think so much of it goes back to this social media culture that we live in, right, and the way that we are all absorbing memes and content all day long that tells us these things that have to be true. And a lot of it’s humor-based, but then we internalize that still. Right. And one of the big ones, of course, is this idea that you have to be overwhelmed to be a good parent, right? That if you’re not stressed out, that you’re just not doing a good job. And it takes a lot I think to go against that and yourself. You know, I think it takes a lot to say, no, you know what? For a lot of us, like we’ve waited years to become parents, and raising kids is something we are excited about. And then here we are, you know, getting stuck in this belief that it has to be so difficult or it has to be so negative.

 

And it’s so funny, I just had a baby. And when we’re out and about with the baby, you know, I have people coming up to us constantly saying, “Oh, enjoy it. Enjoy it while it lasts. You know, it goes by too quickly. And you know, they’ll grow up before you know it.” And it’s so funny because I’ve been reflecting a lot on just how much we get that comment when we’re out. And I think so much of that is that, you know, it goes by in a blink of an eye, and a lot of the time we don’t even get to enjoy it as much as we want to because we’re so caught up in this cultural belief that’s been fed to us that it has to be so difficult. And so it’s kind of like reclaiming your desire for what you want parenting to look like. You know, what do you want your life as a parent to be, and what do you want your experience of parenting to look like, and how can you design that for your family? Because there’s so many of these things that if you let them come in, they can really take over your family, right?

 

There’s, like, having kids will ruin your relationship. That’s another big one that we hear, right? Like, oh, once you have kids, your relationship with your partner just isn’t gonna be the same. You’ll never have time for each other. But does that have to be true? Right? Aren’t there people out there who have incredible relationships and incredible connections, and who are raising big families? Or, you know, again, becoming a mother means losing your identity. And can we stop long enough to question those things and say, “Okay, is this true for me or do I wanna let this be true for me?”

 

Katie: Yeah, I think that is an invaluable tip in every aspect of life, actually, that anytime we feel a strong emotion, and I personally say it, especially if it’s an emotion that’s attached to, like, guilt, like mom guilt, or fear, or shame, it’s a great opportunity to learn a lesson because usually, that’s not actually necessarily an objectively true statement. It’s there’s something attached inside of us. And it’s a wonderful chance to explore. And they’re people, like Byron Katie, who talk about that, like, to your point asking, “Is this true? Well, what else could be true?” And starting to unpack it. And that’s a beautiful thing to model for our kids as well.

 

It seems like another societal expectation that at least I only have obviously experienced in this generation, but it seems new to our generation is this idea that we are supposed to entertain our kids all the time. I don’t think my grandmother felt any guilt about the idea that she was supposed to be, like, her children’s entertainment and teacher, and, you know, puppet master, and whatever, all these things to keep them from ever being bored. And I’d love to hear your take on this. I feel like that’s a pretty pervasive cultural one right now.

 

Mariah: Yeah, it really is. You know, it’s just something I hear all the time from parents. I was just telling a story the other day of a client that I worked with, where we got on our first call and she was, like, nervous to tell me that her I think 4 or 5-year-old daughter, played by herself happily for, like, up to two hours in the playroom. And she was like, “Am I a bad mom for letting my daughter play by herself for that long? Like, do I need to be entertaining her?” And I told her, “Of course not. You know, kids are supposed to play. It’s what they’re supposed to do,” right?

 

And for some reason, I genuinely don’t know where this came from but for some reason, we have been taught to believe, and I think it probably ties into this thing of like us needing to be self-sacrificing to be good mothers, right? With that comes this thing of, like, it’s your job to entertain your kids 24/7, you know, make sure there’s always a structured activity, take them, drive them back and forth to extracurriculars, you know. As soon as they’re home, give them your full attention. And so, I think that what’s really important is, again, that you set up systems that you teach your kids ways of being able to play and entertain themselves, but also that then when you are with them, that you’re able to be more present. And that’s the distinction that happens when you stop trying to entertain your kids all the time is all of a sudden, you have the bandwidth to be present with them, right? Because if you’re constantly trying to entertain them, how are you ever going to be able to give them your full presence when you have a life to attend to?

 

Katie: Yeah, I think that’s a great point. And I think another part for me of releasing that was the idea that not only am I not being a bad mom if I let them entertain themselves. This actually is an important psychological step for them. And for some reason, in our culture, maybe because of just constant stimulation from all friends, we’ve gotten this idea that boredom is bad. But boredom is actually really important for kids because that’s when they learn how to, like, find creativity from the inside. And that’s actually like a very valuable skill for them. And as adults, no one is entertaining us all the time. And we have Netflix, we can turn to I guess at all times. But we’re actually giving them a valuable framework to be able to handle a very real-life adult skill, which I think is another important point. Because I think one thing that can be an antidote to some of the cultural pressures, is I look at it as going back to first principles, and also having a long approach versus just being stuck in the day-to-day. And the idea of what are the tangible skills I want to make sure that my kids learn while they’re in my care?

 

And for me, the answer was things like creativity, and critical thinking, and the ability to ask good questions, and to learn rapidly from information that’s available. And so then how do I help them cultivate those skills versus, like, how do I make sure they don’t experience discomfort today? And that just helped me have a longer approach I think there. I also think that when you’re already a busy parent and you’re stuck in this cycle, it can be hard to even take that breath to step back. And, like I said, there could be a point of there might be too much on the schedule. And there’s a time and a place for reducing the amount that’s on the schedule. But more often, it seems like these are just mindset and practical shifts within the execution of family life. So what are some ways that parents can start building in more of that space, to have that ease and calm come in?

 

Mariah: Yeah. Yeah, independent play, I think is probably the biggest skill here. And it’s exactly what you said about creativity, and independence, and boredom. I’m such an advocate of kids being bored. You know, I think for most of us, kind of in our generation that was just built into our childhoods. You know, and I think, you know, you joke about Netflix, but part of this kind of issue with us having to entertain our kids all the time is technology, right? It’s the fact that they and we have gotten used to having constant passive entertainment from our technology, right, having phones, and having screens, and shows, and everything that we can just turn on. And we’ve lost the beauty and the power of play. I really believe that. You know, I think that children are designed to just sit in a room and figure out from their own imagination with toys or without, you know, worlds of their own and entire, you know, scapes that they play in for hours and hours.

 

I mean, that’s what I did, as a child. I would sit in a room alone and just play pretend by myself for hours on end. And those are good childhood memories. You know, that’s what I try to remind parents is that, when you think back on your childhood, are some of your best memories of play because they are for me, you know. And so, teaching that to kids in today’s culture is a skill, right? It’s not like it used to be where parents just said, “Go outside and play,” and we had to figure it out. These kids have gotten used to being passively entertained all the time. And so we have to help them build that muscle for how to play again. And so, that looks like building it up in increments. And going back to family systems, there’s a system that I teach for this, you know, where each day you work a little bit with your kids, and you let them play by themselves for a little while, and you just use a lot of acknowledgment, and you use a lot of positive reinforcement. And you make it fun and easy but over time you let them build in that space, and you also give them the chance to be bored.

 

And sometimes you have to say like, “Okay, well, if you’re bored and, you know, there’s nothing to do, then you can just sit,” and that’s okay, you know. And eventually, I guarantee you if you keep creating that space, but you don’t create a power struggle around it, right? You don’t force it, but you just keep creating space for it and keep creating the space for it, your kids will find their play in that space. And that’s probably the number one way that parents can start to free themselves up is to teach their kids to enjoy playing again, and to be able to entertain themselves and have that kind of creative flow.

 

Katie: Yeah, I don’t think we can overstate, like, truly how much of a shifts that can be for moms, I think even just that realization for me was so freeing and helped break some of those societal expectations of not only am I not being a bad mom, this is actually part of helping guide them into healthy adulthood and being a good mom. And I think this is another one that gets tied up in those cultural expectations. When we see the memes that paint in a bad light are moms and grandmas who said like, “Go outside and play and don’t come back until dinner,” and it’s almost always portrayed as like, can you believe they did that? And I’m like, “Can you believe we’re not doing that?” I’ve heard it said play is the work of children. And I feel like we’ve taken it away from them. And also that they can be our greatest teachers in relearning how to play. And to tie in that idea of modeling, I know that’s been part of my own evolution of not losing myself in motherhood and of modeling this for my kids was realizing, “Oh, this is a part of my life that I’ve lost.”

 

So what are some areas that I can be creative, and I can play, and I can show them, those parts of myself and give them the example to do that themselves? So whether it’s art or like learning new physical things, or sports, I think them seeing me have the bandwidth to be able to do that was also a big step for them in being able to do that as well.

 

I think something else really important that you touched on is that idea that they may have emotions that come up related to if they’re not used to being bored or if they’re not used to having that space to actually just go play and have to entertain themselves. And as moms, stepping back and realizing those emotions are valid, they’re not necessarily bad, like, and not placing an external judgment on their emotions, and also not solving it for them. That seems to be like a fall down point when you kind of start implementing these things.

 

I know for me, at least I can speak personally. I at times felt discomfort when my kids would have certain emotions, and I realized it actually had nothing to do with them. It was because of something emotionally in me that was being triggered by, “Oh, they’re not supposed to feel angry. They’re not supposed to feel uncomfortable. They’re not…” And one thing that helps me a lot was to step back, and pause, and put some space in there, and then actually think through, like, how do I help them feel and validate this emotion? Because the emotion itself is never bad. It’s what they do with the emotion. So how can I as two separate things, give them the space to feel their emotion and not judge it internally, and also give them guidance around actions that can be a result of an emotion? And just that step alone seems to have put a lot more space in place.

 

Mariah: Yeah, definitely. Yeah, I mean, that’s such a piece of every part of parenting, right, is like being able to hold space for our kid’s emotions without identifying with them, or trying to solve them, or trying to change them. And it’s definitely a part of this, you know, and you have to be able to use those skills that I think are widely talked about these days, like validating your kid’s feelings in that moment. But that doesn’t speak to how difficult that can be internally. You know, it’s one thing to say out loud, oh, I know, you’re frustrated, or I know you’re bored, and you don’t wanna do this, but it’s another thing to be able to manage your own internal experience while that’s happening.

 

And I think, you know, parents, you have to have grace with yourself through this process. You know, it’s gonna take time and you really do have to remember that it’s a skill these days because kids are not being allowed to play and have that space, and they’re not being allowed to discover that in themselves. And so, when you do that, you’re going against the grain, you know, when you’re doing something that most parents aren’t doing today. And so, your kids might say, you know, “Oh, none of my friends have to do this. They get to watch their iPads” or, you know, whatever it is. But yeah, you have to be able to manage that internal experience of your own. And it’s so true that it, a lot of the times our own discomfort with that emotion.

 

Katie: And I’d love to delve into maybe some like age-specific systems that are helpful at different times and/or for people listening, there’s probably going to be the full spectrum of everybody from pregnant moms and moms of babies up to teenagers and beyond. And so, is there a difference if you’re implementing these things when you first have kids versus what if you already have “established systems,” maybe they weren’t intentional, but you have these established patterns? Can you still do this with older kids even if it hasn’t always been the case in your home?

 

Mariah: Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I think that there’s always space to change your parenting practices, whether it’s independent play, or whether it’s the way you handle discipline in your family, or, you know, the way you communicate with each other. There’s always room to make changes. And, you know, I’m a big advocate of apologizing and telling your kids that you’re wanting to make a change. So I think with older kids, you have to be really honest and explicit with them again, whether that’s okay, we’re gonna start working on implementing more independent play, and we’ve never done this before. And, you know, you can say, “I learned about this, and I wanna share this with you. And I think it’s really important for you to learn. And can we work as a team to figure out how to do this?”

 

And so I think what really varies specifically with independent play is like the communication around it, the way you talk to your kids about it, but I’m a believer that from 6 months up, you know, kids can be flying independently. And so for a little baby, that might be, you know, 5 to 10 minutes that they’re happily kind of cooing around on a blanket on the floor. And for, you know, a 10-year-old, it might be that they’re getting lost in play for two hours straight. So the expectations are different. But whatever it is you’re wanting to implement, whatever new system, it’s a matter of taking your time and picking one thing at a time.

 

So if independent play feels like the biggest thing that would really free you up right now, pick that and work on it every day a little bit. So if you have a little one, you know, have five minutes a day, set a timer, you know, let them… You be, you know, 10 feet away on your computer or cooking dinner, and you have them on a blanket across the floor. Or if you have an 8-year-old, you know, have them go up to the playroom for 15 minutes, and then let them come back down. And over time, it’ll build. So, the biggest distinctions I think by age are the communication, which I think for a lot of parents is pretty intuitive, right? You know your kids and how they communicate, what age they are, what their kind of developmental capability is there. And so yeah, you can taper based on that.

 

Katie: Yeah, you’re right. I think communication is a huge piece of it in all regards to this.

 

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I know people may be wondering, and a sticking point I hear a lot from a lot of moms is like, how do I get my kids to do chores at a different age? That seems like a very common one. So I’d love any advice you have specific to that, monitoring systems that come into play at different ages.

 

Mariah: Yeah. Yeah. The biggest thing with that I think, is that you know, so much of what you said earlier on, I think about not forcing kids and getting them to feel autonomy and getting them to feel like it’s their choice, in many ways, goes a long way. So, you know, you can do chore charts, and sticker charts, and things like that. And those can work to have structure. But to me a family system isn’t necessarily those things. A family system is more like an agreement that you’ve come up with together as a family, because I really believe that a great family system feels like a team, that everybody is an equal member, and everybody’s contributing, and everybody’s a part of it. And so, getting your kids involved can look like sitting them down and saying, you know, “What chores do you enjoy doing? What would you be happy to help with around the house? And, you know, how can we set it up so that you are motivated to do this?”

 

And so how that system actually plays out will look different, depending on the ages of your kids, and what kind of chores you want their help with. But it’s really, you know, a matter of getting them involved and getting their buy-in so that they’re excited, and they don’t feel like it’s you forcing them to do it. Because if we kind of manufacture these systems that we want to work, and then we put them on our kids, and they’re just going to feel a loss of power there, right? So it’s like, how can you get them to feel like it’s their idea almost, you know? And then how do you make it fun, you know, make it fun, and bring play into it? And for some families, it’s like, you know, turn on music for 15 minutes in the evening, and everyone cleans the house together, and do like a power cleaning session, you know.

 

For other families, it’s like, you know, the kid doesn’t like to be told what to do, and so you discover together that what works is to write them a list of the things they need to do that day and slip it under their door. So figuring out what that looks like for your family comes by talking to your kids about it and asking them what they would want and how they could actually be excited to help?

 

Katie: Yeah, exactly. And well, I was probably a very tough child to parent when I was a kid, because I have that personality that on multiple personalities has to be explained, like the rebel side of, you can’t tell me what to do and I can’t either. So any kind of super rigid external structure, I tend to just… My instinct is to rebel against. And so I had to learn that in myself. And it’s the thing I think we have to help our kids learn, which is that long-term, this motivation has to come internally. And like you said, leadership is aligning motivations. So how do we do this without us being the outside force of pressure that gets these things to happen? Because that also still keeps the emotional burden of that in mom’s camp versus if we get them bought in, and we have a family culture around this, and we all have clear ideas of our family culture, and our goals, and where we’re going, and they have actual ownership and feel actual contribution in what they’re doing. It is an external pressure from parents, it’s everybody moving toward a common goal together, which, of course, like you said, it’s not gonna be a perfect system. There are going to be times when it’s still hard, but at least then we have a clear direction that we’re going.

 

Mariah: Yeah, exactly. Yeah, working together with their personalities… And I love what you said about the personality test, because it’s also about looking at your kids as unique individuals, right? And one kid might need something different than a different kid. And so, a family system doesn’t necessarily mean one system that everybody follows in the family. It’s like looking at everybody and saying, “Okay, what’s gonna work for each of us, you know?” And so maybe you have one kid who’s really motivated by doing things with you. And so you guys do a cleaning session together, and the other one works better independently, and that’s okay, right. But I think it’s really easy to get caught up in this idea that you need to treat all your kids equally. And I’m really a big believer that every kid is such an individual, and it’s so important for us to parent them as individuals. And so that comes in, in every kind of system that you implement, whether it’s how you handle your bedtime routine, or how you handle conflicts when they come up, how you set boundaries with them. It’s like look at each kid and say, “What’s going to work for them and who they are.” And, you know, that can feel complicated, I think as a parent, but if you all sit down together, you can probably find a flow that serves everybody’s personalities and everybody’s interests.

 

Katie: That’s a great point because I think you’re right, getting swept up in this idea of equality and fairness, it often can be actually less fair to your kids, because they’re all so different. And if you apply the same, I’m gonna do the same thing with each of you and buy gifts in the same idea for each of you, you’re not gonna actually maybe love them in the way they each individually need to be loved or spoken to. And I’d love also to touch on a little bit about…especially with young kids, it seems like there can be stress that comes from things like temper tantrums or siblings fighting. Do you have any guidelines or systems that are helpful from the mom’s perspective to guide through those?

 

Mariah: Yeah, I mean, I think the biggest thing I always say is, again, consistency is so important. So there’s a lot of schools of thought around those things. And I do have skills that I teach around them, but most importantly, when I work with someone, I look to see, what’s their parenting style? Because what works for one parent isn’t going to work for another. So, for example, I have a client who has a very, very, very gentle parenting approach and it’s really difficult for her to implement any kind of boundaries or discipline with her child. And so we came up together with a system that’s really, really gentle for how she deals with temper tantrums with her son. Whereas another parent needs more structure and more kind of firmness in their parenting. And so, whatever your style is, there’s a system that can work for it, but it’s so important that you choose something you stick with it.

 

So, you know, I have a neighbor who has a young daughter who was hitting at school, and she was like, “You know, this person is telling me to handle it this way. And this person is telling me to handle it this way.” And I said, “You know, honestly, it doesn’t matter. I think those are both like good approaches, they’ll both work, but you have to choose one, and you have to feel competent in it, right, you have to own it as a parent that this is what you wanna do and this is how you wanna handle it.” So, I think that when it comes to temper tantrums, you know, I’m a big fan of being really present with kids when they’re emotionally dysregulated, and staying with them through that process, and validating their feelings, and holding space for them. And I know that sometimes as a parent, that that breaks down, right? And it’s like, you get to a point where you can’t be in the room anymore, and you need to leave.

 

And so part of like choosing the approach you’re going to take and choosing the system you’re going to take is to be honest with yourself about what’s going to work for you, right? So if you’re not the parent who can sit through a 20-minute temper tantrum, it’s okay to leave the room for a couple of minutes, right? Like, that’s okay to do as long as your child is in a safe space, and you feel like, you know, things are okay. So it’s really about choosing something that’s gonna work for you and being consistent, I think is the number one thing. I think there’s so many resources out there for parents telling you, “This is the right way to do it or this is the wrong way to do it.” And I really aim not to be one of those voices, you know, because I wanna empower parents to look within and find the system that’s going to be the most aligned for them in their parenting practice.

 

Katie: Yeah, I think that’s an important point for sure. And I know one thing that helped me internally figure this out, realizing that, often…I see this in business, I see this in my household, often there’s a recurring issue if I look at it as, oh, this is actually a management problem. Like, what can I do that I have the ability to change that would help make this less stressful for everybody? But one thing in this particular camp that was helpful for me was realizing temper tantrums in and of themselves aren’t a problem. I was trying to fix a problem that wasn’t actually a problem. It’s a problem if it leads to hitting a sibling, or hurting someone else, or breaking things. But I think often it can be back to that idea of separating the emotion from the action. The emotions themselves aren’t bad.

 

And I as an adult had to actually do therapy around the fact that I had detached from certain emotions because I had internalized as a child that they were either inconvenient, or bad, or harmful, and that I wasn’t supposed to ever feel angry, or sad, or mad. Like, I had detached from those. And then I had to relearn, like, these are normal human emotions. I’m judging them in a way I don’t need to judge them. And how can I both model this and also give my kids safe ways to understand and express their emotions? And I think that’s partially things like giving them words to explain it beyond just, like, I feel mad. Well, what specifically do you feel? Where do you feel it in your body? What does it feel like? Giving them tangible words can help them process it, but also validating, it’s very normal to feel mad sometimes.

 

And, you know, if you wanna have a temper tantrum in your bed and, like, punch your pillows as hard as you can, like, I will cheer for you, and let’s talk about it, and let’s process it. Giving them space for that versus shutting it down, ironically, actually makes it, at least in my house, happen less often, I think because they feel validated in their experience. But then still adding that piece of, you’re still responsible for what you do and your actions no matter what your emotion is. And so let’s talk about these two things, and how can we work together to have a system where your emotions don’t lead to actions that are going to cause consequences for you, but also that you have a safe way to express your emotions. So maybe we need to talk about it. Maybe we’re gonna sing. Maybe we’re gonna have a temper tantrum together. Maybe we’re gonna go for a walk. Like, what is this thing for each child that helps them have a tool? And I think, like, for me, at least that’s a big thing I think about it, like, what are tools that would actually help in whatever the situation is.

 

Another piece that seems to come into play is environment as well. Like, I’ve talked about this with previous podcast guests. Like, we have the idea as humans, we understand we shape our environment, but also our environment shapes us, whether it be what we’re sitting on and our posture, down to the things that are in our environment will influence the activities that we’re doing. So any tips for curating a great environment that helps build some of these systems naturally or that encourages kids naturally to play or be creative, or be bored?

 

Mariah: I’m a really big advocate of simplicity in spaces for kids and toy rotation. Toy rotation is like the best thing ever I think for children, especially young children. I think so much of the time, kids are overstimulated. And it doesn’t mean that you need to get rid of all your toys, or anything like that, but the more we can take things away that are excess and kind of just give kids a few things, the more they have space to find that creativity, and the flow, and the boredom, and all those things. So, you know, having just a few toys out at a time in a room and keeping everything else put up in a closet, and then every couple of weeks, you bring them back out. And the other added benefit of that is that the wonderful things about kids is they forget about the toys while they’re gone. And so, when they come back, they’re brand new and exciting again. But also when it comes to your routines and things like that, you know, having things being accessible for kids.

 

You know, I love the Montessori style setup, where everything’s within reach, everything is allowed to be touched. And, you know, that’s not always realistic for your entire home. And that’s totally fine. But that in children’s bedrooms, that they can reach their own clothes and get them out, and that in their bathrooms that their stool is set up, you know, where they can climb up safely and brush their own teeth, and things like that, because especially younger children are really motivated by that autonomy, really, kids of all age are motivated by that autonomy and, you know, need for independence. And so, the more you set it up that they can feel empowered in that, the less fighting you’re gonna have to do and the less you’re going to have to do for them. You know, like you said about your kids doing their laundry as soon as they’re able, you know, that’s the way I was raised. And I think that kids naturally want to do things for themselves as part of being a child, you know, is that they wanna learn and they want to grow. And so the more you make that, like, practically accessible to them in their space, the easier over time we’re all going to have.

 

Katie: Absolutely. And I think, yeah, just anything… I’m a big fan of nonspecific toys, so things like Legos, Montessori toys are great, things that could be rotated in and out and that like lead to creativity versus you’re trying to do it one particular way. And this way has one particular way you can play with it. I also love in our house having art supplies always available. I made a decision early on that our house was meant to be lived in. And so there were going to be handprints and footprints from handstands on the wall, and there was gonna be paint on the kitchen table. And I’ll just get a new kitchen table when all my kids are grown. But for now, it’s gonna be colorful, and that’s great. But just things like that or, like, if we want our kids to move more, I’ve talked about putting things like yoga swings in the room or a gymnastics mat in the hallway. Like, kids naturally have all these movement patterns. So just putting things as reminders in their way of whatever the thing is creativity, or movement, or whatever it is.

 

But I love those practical tips. And I know you have so, so many more in your work as well. So I’m gonna link to you in the show notes. For all of you guys listening, that’s wellnessmama.fm. So you guys can find Mariah, and learn from her because she posts a lot of great stuff related to all the things we’ve talked about. I know you work with people directly, as well, so if people want to reach out to you. And as we get toward the end of our time, a couple other questions I love to ask, the first being, if there’s a book or a number of books that have had a profound impact on your life, and if so what they are and why.

 

Mariah: Yeah, it’s so funny I thought a lot about this question because, of course, it feels so hard to choose just one. And I went through in my head all of these, like, spirituality books or personal development. And then what’s so funny is I felt drawn to share something from my childhood, which is, as a little girl, I was obsessed with the “Little House on the Prairie” books by Laura Ingalls Wilder. And we just named our son Wilder. And so it’s something that’s important to my husband and I both. And I think that, you know, we’re all such products of our conditioning. And for me, that was such a big part of what I was drawn to as a little kid. And so it still feels so important to me because I think those books speak to family and the simplicity of family life. You know, they’re really about… I used to play for hours, you know, scenes from those books because I loved that what they really were about were our relationships with each other and about kind of the day-to-day things that we did, you know, turning butter and making clothes. And I think it’s so funny that that’s in some ways really connected to what I do today.

 

Katie: I loved that series too when I was growing up. My kids are reading it now, and it is so fun to see them get to go through that journey as well. I love the name Wilder. Congratulations on your new little one, by the way. And any parting advice you wanna leave with the listeners, could be related to everything we’ve talked about or something entirely unrelated?

 

Mariah: I mean, I would say if I could share one thing with parents, in general, I would just say that, you know, I know it’s so difficult to hear that advice that everybody likes to share that, oh, the days are short. And you know, I’m sorry, the days are long and the years are short, so enjoy it while it last. But that really if you can do one thing to make a shift in your family, it’s to find a way to be present in the times when you are with your kids. So, you know, it’s impossible to be present with them all the time and also to take the pressure off of that and back to the mom guilt to let go of that need to be present all the time but really to choose times when you are completely giving your undivided attention to your family and your children so that you can soak in those moments when you’re able to and then take the pressure off the rest of the time that you don’t have to do that all of the time.

 

Katie: I think that’s a perfect place to wrap up. And I’m deeply appreciative of your work. I think you’re tackling a big issue like we talked about in the beginning with mom guilt and all these cultural expectations that are making something much harder than it needs to be. And I think there’s a lot of freedom for us as moms in finding these simple shifts that can make such a big difference. And that anytime we can help moms make those shifts, we help families make those shifts, and we help society make those shifts. I think you’d agree I said a lot on this podcast, but that moms are the most powerful force in the universe. And I love that your work is so supportive of moms and families. Thank you so much for your time and being here today.

 

Mariah: Thank you so much. It’s great talking with you.

 

Katie: And thanks as always, to all of you for sharing your most valuable resources, your time, your energy, and your attention with us today. We’re both so grateful that you did, and I hope that you will join me again on the next episode of the “Wellness Mama” podcast.

 

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About Katie Wells

Katie Wells, CTNC, MCHC, Founder of Wellness Mama and Co-founder of Wellnesse, has a background in research, journalism, and nutrition. As a mom of six, she turned to research and took health into her own hands to find answers to her health problems. WellnessMama.com is the culmination of her thousands of hours of research and all posts are medically reviewed and verified by the Wellness Mama research team. Katie is also the author of the bestselling books The Wellness Mama Cookbook and The Wellness Mama 5-Step Lifestyle Detox.

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