Today’s podcast guest comes from a country that no longer exists, speaks over 8 languages, and offers some amazing insight into creating a healthy mindset. I’m here with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani, the co-founder of MindValley, the world’s most powerful life transformation platform.
Kristina is also an entrepreneur, a writer, an international speaker, an artist, and a philanthropist. She’s also the author of the online program Live by Your Own Rules, Seven Days to Happiness and the new book Becoming Flawesome. And today’s episode is all about over-coming perfectionism and self-doubt and learning self-love. As a recovering perfectionist myself, I’m learning firsthand how failure can be our friend sometimes!
We go deep into topics like why too much positivity is actually a bad thing and how to safeguard against it. What happens when we aren’t authentic to ourselves and how the extremes can feed our insecurities. One of the thing’s that Kristina said that I love is how we shouldn’t think of our inner battles as slaying dragons. Instead, we should learn how to tame them and ride them. So much good stuff in today’s episode.
This was such a fun conversation with Kristina and I hope you’ll join us and listen in!
Episode Highlights With Kristina
- How she was born in a country that doesn’t exist anymore and was selected for the Olympic reserves multiple times
- Why too much positivity can actually be detrimental to us and how to safeguard against this
- Life is like a dance and there aren’t necessarily simple answers or linear paths
- How she defines authenticity and what happens when we aren’t authentic to ourselves
- The dark side of personal growth and how the extremes can feed our insecurities
- How to reframe and instead of thinking of slaying the dragons think of taming them and learning to ride them
- Vulnerability has two components: the courage of acting despite the fear and the uncertainty of not knowing what will result
- How people can misuse the practice of meditation or gratitude when they start to happen on autopilot
- What emotional analgesia is and why she believes it is a big problem for us
- You can’t numb emotions selectively… if you numb one, you numb the ability to feel all of them
- Remembering that we are allowed to feel all of our emotions and not judge them and still choose to act from our values and not our emotions
- We are not our emotions but why they are valuable feedback
- Self love is actually about the relationship with yourself
- The difference between self love and self care and why this difference is important
- Self care is skin deep and self love has more depth
- Is imposter syndrome actually a sign that you’ve done something good?
- An important question: Can you still love yourself if you fail?
- When we use love as currency and how to avoid this
- Try an experiment of replacing judgement with curiosity in your relationship with yourself
Resources We Mention
- Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life by Kristina Mand-Lakhiani
- The Best of Fyodor Dostoevsky
- Alice in Wonderland: The Original 1865 Edition With Complete Illustrations (Lewis Carroll Classics) by Lewis Carroll
- The Master and Margarita: 50th-Anniversary Edition (Penguin Classics Deluxe Edition) by Mikhail Bulgakov
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