While sexuality isn’t a topic I cover very often on this podcast, it’s still an important topic for many, especially mamas after childbirth. Or anyone who has pelvic floor dysfunction or nervous system dysregulation (like I did for many years). These topics are part of our health and wellness journey too. With that said, I’d like to introduce you to Kiana Reeves, an educator, practitioner, speaker, and voice in the sexual wellness movement.
For over a decade she’s been studying sex, embodiment, intimacy, birth, and wellness. This led her to Foria where she’s been for over 6 years. She takes a holistic approach that brings together the emotional, biological, social, and spiritual nature of sex and intimacy. Kiana is also a full spectrum doula and a mother of two.
In today’s episode, Kiana shares about her work as a doula and as a Somatic therapist. We also talk about why pleasure is so important in our lives and why it impacts our well-being and relationships beyond just physical pleasure. And we talk about healthy vs unhealthy types of nervous system regulation and different ways to work with our nervous systems. We cover a lot in today’s interview so I hope you’ll join us and listen in!
Episode Highlights With Kiana
- How she is also a doula and how she got into female sexual health
- Her work as a somatic therapist
- The importance of pleasure in our lives and how it impacts well-being and relationships beyond just physical pleasure or sexuality
- How the nervous system is like the window through which we see the world and how this can make it difficult to identify if it’s dysregulated
- Ways to help regulate the nervous system and help the body feel safe
- Healthy vs unhealthy nervous system regulation
- Two ways to work with the nervous system and when to use each
- How sexual pleasure relates to nervous system last
- The connection between sexual and emotional intimacy
- Differences between the two types of desire and what responsive desire is
- Why it can often take the female body 15-40 minutes to reach peak arousal and how this is often different than it is for males
- Some exercises we can do to help reconnect with our body and our sexual experience
- What sexual polarity is and how to nurture it in long term partnerships
- How to nurture dynamic tension in partnership
Resources We Mention
- Foria Products
- Where Should We Begin?: The Arc of Love by Esther Perel
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
- Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston CNM. RN. BSN. LMT
- Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estés
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