Why Kids Need Knife Skills

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Once I stumbled across some comments on an older blog post about letting kids help in the kitchen. Commenters insisted that they would never let their kids use knives, or would limit them to only butter knives or dull cutting utensils until at least age twelve.

Different strokes for different folks and all that, but my kids have been using a variety of knives and learning to cook since they were toddlers. In my view, kids can learn valuable lessons when allowed to take risks.

Of course, parental judgment is good and necessary. But what if we prepared kids with skills and safe limits rather than saying “no”?

Is It Safe for Kids to Learn Knife Skills?

I must confess, I used to err very much on the side of caution when it came to kids and knives, until I started finding research that delaying a child’s ability to learn to use sharp objects like knives can actually interfere with their psychological development and is akin to “delaying potty training until school age.”

What was that?

I was surprised too, but after some research and careful trial with my research team (aka my kids) in our lab (aka my kitchen), I have to agree that not only are kids capable of using “real knives” at a much younger age than I expected but that there do seem to be some psychological benefits as well.

Knives = Bad, TV = Safe?

This is the other surprising disconnect that I’ve noticed in recent years that has become more and more apparent… we shelter our children from important real life skills that have a small element of danger (like using a knife safely, climbing trees, playing outside by themselves, or riding a bike to the park) but give them easy access to “safe” things that are proven to be very harmful developmentally (like too much screen time, a sedentary lifestyle, etc).

Our kids can work an iPad like a pro but not use a kitchen knife (except for that they probably can, we just don’t let them). They can dominate at Candy Crush  but can’t do common household tasks like mopping a floor, loading a dishwasher, and doing laundry.

We limit kids from any task where they could get hurt, make a mess, or that we could “do more quickly.” Then we wonder why they balk when we eventually expect them to help out and why they lack the desire to do these things themselves.

Benefits of Letting Kids Use Knives

As parents, it is easy to see knives as a dangerous object just waiting to remove the finger/hand/arm of our children or lead them to certain impalement, but objectively, a knife is just a common and very useful kitchen tool. Yes, it can lead to harm if used incorrectly, but then so can a stove, oven, spiral slicer, vegetable peeler, or broom handle in the wrong hands.

On the flip side, a kitchen knife (and other common tools that we often shield a child from) doesn’t just represent a kitchen tool, but a step on the road to independence.

As parents, we have to ask at the end of the day: is our real job is to keep our children “safe” at all times or to raise them to be independent and capable adults? I’d argue the latter.

In fact, in many parts of the world, children are routinely allowed to interact with “dangerous” tools such as knives, hammers, mortars and pestles, and others from as young as age 2 (and even younger in some places!).

Learning Risk Assessment and Independence

This may seem like blanket heresy in our overprotective society, but hear me out…

Exposing children to situations that teach them at a young age to gauge risk accurately actually helps protect them in the long run. Children learn by trying (and sometimes failing) just how far they can jump, how to fall safely, and how to use tools (like knives) correctly.

Yes, there will be skinned knees and small cuts along the way (what child hasn’t fallen down and gotten hurt when learning to walk?), but we all managed to survive the horrors of a skinned knee and our children can too. More importantly, they need these experiences to teach them independence and resilience and that minor setbacks aren’t the end of the world.

From the article, “American Parents Have Got It All Backwards”:

Ellen Hansen Sandseter, a Norwegian researcher at Queen Maud University in Norway, has found in her research that the relaxed approach to risk-taking and safety actually keeps our children safer by honing their judgment about what they’re capable of. Children are drawn to the things we parents fear: high places, water, wandering far away, dangerous sharp tools. Our instinct is to keep them safe by childproofing their lives. But “the most important safety protection you can give a child,” Sandseter explained when we talked, “is to let them take… risks.”

Countries where children are given freedom to take risks develop a well-honed sense of risk assessment. Rather than keep their children indoors, countries like Sweden and Norway design their cities to enable safe walking and biking. This one of the factors that allows them to have some of the lowest child injury rates in the world.

Raising Helpers Who Aren’t Helpless

There is also a theory in psychology that the declining number of children per family in modern times has led us to think of our children as “precious treasures to be protected” rather than future helpers to be nurtured.

Don’t get me wrong, I consider my children the most precious gift I’ve ever received. I am grateful to have been given these years to spend with them and raise them as responsible members of society. Over time, I’ve also come to realize that doing too much for them denies them the chance to contribute in a meaningful way to our family. This will actually hurt them in the long run as they move into contributing to society.

Now it’s one of my parenting mantras: I don’t do anything for them they can do themselves. I made a list of skills my kids need to know to take care of themselves by the time they leave home, and this dictates age-appropriate responsibilities they can help with. These include basic tasks like cleaning, cooking, sewing on buttons, and changing a car tire.

Using a knife safely and correctly is an incredibly useful skill and one that I use daily, even outside the kitchen.

Helps Reinforce Healthy Eating Habits

When it comes to letting children help prepare food and use knives and other tools, there is another direct benefit that can’t be overstated:

Letting kids help prepare food makes them more likely to eat it.

Processed foods often require little or no preparation, but nutrient-dense whole foods have to be washed, peeled and cut. It has been my universal experience with my children that the more a child is able to help prepare a meal, the more likely he or she is to eat it.

In fact, our 7-year-old and 9-year-old started to prepare meals for the family themselves on occasion (especially weekend meals) and have become adventurous cooks and adventurous eaters in the process.

Involving the kids in all aspects of meal prep has shifted the conversation about new foods from “ewww… what is that” to “how do you cook that and what kind of recipes do you use it in?”

This winter the older kids peeled and grated carrots, kohlrabi, onions, and other vegetables and made a vegetable soup from scratch. And they ate it. And loved it.

In countries like Japan, France, Korea, and others, there are no separate foods for children and no such things as kids menus. Children are expected to eat when adults eat and to eat what the adults eat. In most places, children aren’t even given snack time or food between meals.

Letting children help prepare the food provides a natural sense of anticipation and a more adventurous spirit when it is time to eat. Avoiding snacks or kid-specific foods lets children feel a natural sense of hunger and develop self-control while waiting for meals.

In my experience, there is the least frustration with meals and the least complaining about food when our children are allowed to be involved in every aspect of food, from planning to purchasing to preparation.

How to Teach Kids Knife Skills

Letting our kids use knives has been an interesting growing experience for our family. This is just one representative step in the ladder of independence, but we’ve found it is an important and much anticipated one for our children.

To clarify, we aren’t giving toddlers machetes or giving any child unsupervised access to knives, but rather making it a priority to spend time teaching our kids to safely use knives in the kitchen as part of preparing meals for the family.

I use this great course called Kids Cook Real Food that teaches children how to safely use knives and other kitchen tools and how to make many types of foods. My kids have loved the knife skills class especially. They are offering an incredible deal right now, so check it out!

The result? Our older kids are even now using my Wusthof kitchen knives to safely chop and prepare food and look forward to this time each day.

And since my husband started an outdoor equipment company and makes his own knives, our kids get even more access to sharp objects!

Here are some other tools and recipes that helped along the way:

Are there ever minor cuts and accidents? Of course, but then again, I’ve been known to slice a finger while cooking every once in a while and I’ve survived… so will they!

What do you think? Do you let your kids use knives?

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About Katie Wells

Katie Wells, CTNC, MCHC, Founder of Wellness Mama and Co-founder of Wellnesse, has a background in research, journalism, and nutrition. As a mom of six, she turned to research and took health into her own hands to find answers to her health problems. WellnessMama.com is the culmination of her thousands of hours of research and all posts are medically reviewed and verified by the Wellness Mama research team. Katie is also the author of the bestselling books The Wellness Mama Cookbook and The Wellness Mama 5-Step Lifestyle Detox.


31 responses to “Why Kids Need Knife Skills”

  1. Kit Avatar

    My children and now grandchildren were taught to safely use knives in Montessori preschool and progressed to preparing and cooking their lunches as they grew into elementary and jr. High. Also in preschool they were encouraged to use water stations with real glass pitchers and small glass tumblers. Of course there were a few accidental breakages. Never any shaming, they simply were helped to take care of their of their mess in a very safe way with the teacher handling any broken glass the child mopping away the water. After the first month or so, those accidents were a rarity. And the children very satisfied in their abilities to take care of their own selves.

  2. Amy Neely Avatar
    Amy Neely

    As my kids have gotten older they have lost some of their enthusiasm to help me cook. My bigs are 6 and 4. All I let them do was pour in my measured out ingredients and stir. No wonder they got bored. They will be thrilled to get knives and burners thrown in the mix. My 6 year old often asks me “how old can I do this or that” if it’s something dangerous I often tell him 47 or something silly (ride a motorcycle was 99). This article opened my eyes to the harm my “silliness” could have on their confidence, judgement and self reliance. I will change my language to let’s try it at a beginner level and see what you can do now. Even “when can I drive a car” they know they have to have a license and pass tests, but they drive a golf cart now. Excited for meal time bonding with this! Thanks:)

  3. Rachel Avatar

    Good post. It’s hard for me to remember exactly when I started using knives. I think at about age six or seven, although I may have been younger. My mom and dad would both have me help them in the kitchen. When I started cooking myself, I would let my younger siblings help. There are 14 of us kids altogether, and we take turns making meals. Cooking is even more fun for kids than adults, I think.

  4. Marie Santos Avatar
    Marie Santos

    This looks awesome, but the website is a bit overwhelming. Any suggestions on where to start when you have young children? One course at a time?

  5. Abbi Avatar

    I have let the kids help me in the kitchen from the time they were very little. I would guess they started using knives at around 2 – with supervision of course and cutting easy soft things. My boys got pocket knives around the age of 5 and all of them have grown to be very responsible (that doesn’t mean they have never had a cut – they have – but they haven’t been serious). Now I am super blessed to have kids that can run the kitchen by themselves (ages 9-16) which is super helpful when I am busy or sick as I have been the last two days. Also have some talented wood carvers as well.

  6. Alexa Avatar

    My daughter uses a butterknife scince she has been 2 (3 now). She cuts Bananas and Kiwi and cucumbers. Sometimes something that is not that easy to cut with a sharper knife and my help too. She never ever cuts herself, but I wouldn’t mind if that had happened once. Small accidents prevent big accidents my mom used to say… I was brought up eating what my parents ate using fork and knife by age of 3. I wasn’t ‘tought’ that. It was just the way they did and I copied them. And they let me. I’m grateful for that. My Mom had fears but she would let me climb, walk stairs, jump , play with water and dirt. That’s how I bring up my kids too.

    Enjoying your articles. THANKS.

  7. Joyce Stich Avatar
    Joyce Stich

    This is the 4th or 5th time I have received this post. Can you please limit to one only? Thank you. Joyce

  8. Joli Tripp Avatar
    Joli Tripp

    This post was about so much more than just kids using knives. I LOVE your philosophy about giving children responsibility and involving them in the kitchen (and everywhere else!). How can we expect our children to thrive in the world without learning the basics and moreover to learn to be curious about them and enjoy them.

  9. Mary Semako Avatar
    Mary Semako

    Keep up the good work. Your post has been very knowledgeable & motivating. Welldone

  10. Leslie Avatar

    I have let my daughter use knives since she was about 2 and a half. She can use a paring knife pretty well now (she’s 3 and a half) to cut cucumbers, smaller carrots, peppers, and all sorts of stuff. I just kind of let her figure it out and she did. She’s also helped my put sausage patties in hot oil, stir her scrambled eggs and much more. They don’t want to get hurt either and will be careful. I see cringes from family members when we visit, but she’s never cut herself or hurt herself beyond a light brush over a hot pan that more let her know I was serious when I said it was hot (lesson: listen to mama!). I also let her use metal forks pretty early. My 14 month old plays with them now. As long as she’s not on my lap, no one gets hurt. Kids can do stuff if we let them. I like that my daughter is confident and careful about doing things.

  11. Krista Avatar

    This post inspired me to teach my four and five year olds how to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. They got to use our table knives, which are decently sharp, to spread the peanut butter and jelly. Then they used their knives to cut their sandwiches how they liked. It was fascinating watching them try. One had her thumb right in the path of the knife, stopped, realizing that she didn’t want to cut her thumb, and moved it. I didn’t have to say anything, and they were thrilled that I was teaching them something I do all the time. I even taught them that we clean up after we’re done cooking. I can’t wait to try out the lessons you suggest.

  12. Delilah Avatar

    This article is interesting to me because I grew up in the country. We lived next door to my grandmother from the time I was 9. Even before that, as early as 4-5, I remember helping out both in the kitchen with knives and on the farm during visits (riding on the side of the tractor, steering the wheel on the farm truck, riding on the tailgate, and even herding cattle). I didn’t realize other parents were so strict with what they taught children until I got pregnant and went to a military class called “Baby Business” that instilled fear in me of all the dangers to my child. Then, with parenting magazines, I was told my family had been doing it wrong. Well, after years of learning to be a parent myself, I am angry that I ever bought into that. You are completely correct that teaching safety is what we should be doing rather than avoiding risky skills. Much like with sex education, I’d rather be the one to teach my children how to protect themselves instead of letting them figure it out on their own, possibly once it’s too late. Thank you!

  13. Linda Sand Avatar
    Linda Sand

    I never learned proper knife skills. I also recently discovered those teaching knife skills to kids videos but I am learning from them myself. I highly recommend them to everyone who wants to learn.

  14. Joanna Avatar

    I let my newly 5 year old help cut cucumbers (halved first for stability) when we have salad. It’s amazing how much she needed to learn – where to put her other hand, how to push down then drag towards her, to go slowly, and to stop when she got close to the end (aka, other hand). We don’t do it all the time, but she is so proud when we do. I have her use a smaller knife that is easier for her to control.

    I have no idea when I started using a knife, but I learned my knife skills from watching the food network as a young twenty-something. I hope my kids learn these skills sooner, and definitely want them to start helping in the kitchen for real by the time they are 10!

  15. Lea Avatar

    Katie, thanks so much for this holistic approach to parenting. Love the conversation. You are a gem….

  16. Alyssa Avatar

    Wonderful article! As a line cook I would say kid should definitely be able to learn to use knives with supervision! Water is dangerous but we let them swim! It’s all about putting safety and responsibility into educating! Always enjoying your articles!

    1. Allen MacDiarmid Avatar
      Allen MacDiarmid

      Water is dangerous only when we DON’T let them swim. When the Lusitania sank, the infants were still swimming around long after their parents had drowned. Herman Melville wrote about the South Sea Islanders having their infants swim from soon after birth so fewer of them drowned later on in life. He wrote that book in the early 1900’s, so we have known about this for more than a hundred years, yet we still fail our children and lose them to unnecessary drownings over the years.

  17. Jana Avatar

    I’ve seen that Montessori schools have the kids use knives and I’ve seen pictures of some tribe in Africa that lets children at 18 months cut large fruit with a machete.

    Once self-preservation kicks in I think teaching kids how to use a knife is a good idea. They won’t be afraid of it. I’ve seen first hand how fear of a tool can be very dangerous to those around them, and as an adult, we naturally want that person to overcome the fear so we feel safe around them. Pushing our fears onto a child is a very bad idea. Kids have enough to worry about without having to take our fears on too.

    My oldest is five and I hope to give him an old fashioned education when it comes to being a boy. Hopefully he’ll take up whittling, knot tying, simple carpentry, and whatever other interesting handicrafts are in the old boy scout manuals.

  18. Joyce Avatar

    Dear Wellness Mama,
    Love your posts even though I am a grandma for many years now.
    I continue to be amazed at your dedication and posts-heaven help you when the next baby comes along as I know you will need all the help you can get! Best wishes for an easy delivery and a healhty baby.

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