Natural Hair Detangling Spray (You Can Make at Home)

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As the mother of daughters with long hair, I know the battle of the brush all too well. At certain times my daughters have had hair down to their waists, and their hair tends to be thick and wavy. To make matters more difficult, they are the most tender-headed children alive. How do we make it work? Only with a good detangling spray!

Homemade Detangling Spray for Hair (No Tears, No Fears)

As documented in the picture below and in my homemade natural shampoo post, my girls have had long, thick, wavy hair at various points over the years. (Some have even suggested I put hair extensions in their hair for these pictures. Nope, she was three!)

I’ve had to use detangling spray on my oldest daughter since she was a few months old. (She was born with about two inches of hair!) We’ve found a couple of special brushes that really help (especially this one and this one) but they still weren’t enough to convince my daughter not to be afraid of brushing her beautiful hair.

I never liked that most store-bought detangling sprays contain a lot of chemicals, especially since I would need to use it daily on my young kids. At least at the time I started tinkering with this recipe, there were very few natural store-bought alternatives, so I started making my own with just conditioner and water.

Homemade natural spray detangler recipeThis simple combo works pretty well, but I later came across a post on Frugally Sustainable about how she uses marshmallow root in her homemade hair detangling spray. Conveniently, I already had marshmallow root on hand for making our homemade marshmallows. (This is my marshmallow root source.)

The new and improved formula transformed our daily routine. She loved the fresh but light scent and how soft it made her hair (not to mention how much pain it saved her), so she even started using it herself.

And I could save my energy for other more important battles!

What I Did

The recipe continued to evolve for a while as I tried different things from my arsenal of natural ingredients to find the best result. I tried chamomile (known to lighten hair) and nettle (known to help hair growth).

I always feel like it’s a win when I figure out how to make something at home from ingredients I already have and can cross one more thing off my shopping list. There are just 3 essential ingredients (and a few optional ones) in this recipe. Add to a spray bottle, shake, and you’re good to go.

What I Used

This recipe does require the addition of a healthy store-bought conditioner with mostly natural, safe ingredients. (I’ve listed a few that have worked for me below.) Thankfully, there are a lot of reputable companies now that avoid the parabens, preservatives, and heavy fragrances commonly found in store-bought beauty products.

To make this detangling spray, I use distilled water, marshmallow root, conditioner and optional essential oils. Any conditioner will work, but I prefer a natural one, especially for kids. Natural conditioner are more expensive, but with as little as you need for this recipe, one bottle lasts over a year for all three of my daughters.

The top natural brands that I’ve tried that smell good, work well, and don’t have harmful ingredients are:

  1. Shea Moisture Organic Restorative Conditioner (I love all of their products)
  2. Max Green Alchemy Scalp Rescue Conditioner (more earthy/tea tree scent but organic and works really well)
  3. Acure Organics Moroccan Argan Oil Conditioner (light and fresh scent)

I used a glass spray bottle I got during a Zulily sale, but I’ve also used this spray bottle from Amazon and the sprayer actually works better for this.

How It Worked

This detangling spray leaves hair shiny, clean, and smelling fresh. It doesn’t leave hair (even fine kids’ hair) weighed down or oily. In the picture above, I sprayed my daughter’s damp hair with the detangling spray after a shower and let it air dry.

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Hair Detangling Spray Recipe

This DIY hair detangling spray is natural, inexpensive, and easy to make.
Prep Time30 minutes
Yield: 1 cups
Author: Katie Wells

Materials

Instructions

  • In a small pan, bring the water and marshmallow root to a boil.
  • Reduce heat and simmer for 20-30 minutes.
  • Cool slightly and strain through a cheesecloth or very thin wire strainer.
  • While still warm, pour the marshmallow infused water into a glass spray bottle.
  • Add the conditioner and essential oils, if using.
  • Shake until mixed.
  • Store for up to 2 months (this is as long as I’ve tested).

Notes

I really like these kid-safe essential oil blends when creating products for children, as it takes the guesswork out of safe essential oil use.

Do you use detangling spray? Ever made your own? Share below!

This homemade hair detangling spray is simple to make, chemical free and saves money over store bought versions. The secret ingredient is marshmallow root!

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About Katie Wells

Katie Wells, CTNC, MCHC, Founder of Wellness Mama and Co-founder of Wellnesse, has a background in research, journalism, and nutrition. As a mom of six, she turned to research and took health into her own hands to find answers to her health problems. WellnessMama.com is the culmination of her thousands of hours of research and all posts are medically reviewed and verified by the Wellness Mama research team. Katie is also the author of the bestselling books The Wellness Mama Cookbook and The Wellness Mama 5-Step Lifestyle Detox.

Comments

162 responses to “Natural Hair Detangling Spray (You Can Make at Home)”

  1. Katie Avatar

    I, too, have had the issue with the conditioner not mixing in, leaving chunks that clump together instead. Has anyone found the solution to this? I used Trader Joe’s tea tree conditioner, so I wouldn’t recommend that one for this recipe. Which conditioners have mixed well? Thanks!

  2. Nancy Martin Avatar
    Nancy Martin

    I made this up today after all of my items came from Amazon. It’s amazing! It didn’t take a whole lot and all three of my kids hair was instantly tamed and softened. My daughters showed marked improvement and now has a natural wave to it that hasn’t been seen before because we have to soak her hair in either water or store bought detangling spray just to comb it out. I doubled the recipe and ended up adding in 16 ounces of additional water halfway through the boil time but I did come out with exactly 24 ounces of detangling spray. I also used the Acure Organics Morroccan Argan Oil Conditioner and my essential oil of choice was Orange Blossom. It smells fantastic and is just slightly darker in color the one pictured here. Love, love, love!!! On a side note, I did get this spray bottle off amazon…I wouldn’t purchase the same one again. The spray pump handle broke in the first use and it either sprays the whole room or jets out–not much in between. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003SRBYP2/ref=oh_details_o02_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

  3. Lynelle Lankford Avatar
    Lynelle Lankford

    We love this detangler! I’ve been using chemical-laden detanglers for years on my sensitive-headed girls, and I was excited to find one without all that junk. I do have a question about it! We can’t seem to get past the smell! I used a natural conditioner and I added about 10 drops of lavender essential oil, but it still has a very strong odor. My girls both cry and fuss because it’s “stinky”. Any tips for this? Wondering if it’s the smell of the conditioner paired with the smell of the marshmallow root? Or, wondering if my concentration of marshmallow root is too strong? Thanks!

      1. Lynelle Lankford Avatar
        Lynelle Lankford

        Currently, we’re using Calming Lemon-Lavender Shea Butter Conditioner & Detangler by Everyday Shea. I might try again with less marshmallow root. Thank you!

    1. Deb G Avatar

      I bought a big bag of lavendar buds and some lavendar oil last year because it’s a natural deterrent for fleas, but found out quickly that: 1. It is a very strong smell. 2. I’m one of the few who don’t like the smell and 3. Some people are actually allergic to the smell and have strong reactions. I would suggest using some other type of essential oil and see how that goes with the girls.

  4. Kari Avatar

    Thank you! I’m loving your natural beauty recipes. What’s the reason for distilled water in this recipe though? Can I use RO water?

  5. Lora Avatar

    Hi Katie! Quick question. What purpose does the marshmallow root serve? If it lightens hair at all, I am unsure about using it. I use henna/indigo on my gray hair to color to a dark brown. If there is another herb that would be better for dark hair, can you tell me what that would be? Thank you so much!

  6. Heidi Avatar

    I bought a marshmallow root herbal extract at Whole Foods. Will that work in place of getting the actual herb? If so, how many drops of that do you think I would use? The bottle says “Fresh herb/menstruum ratio 1 : 25”

  7. Ashley Avatar

    just made this detangler to use with my daughter it is not near as light colored as the one in the pic..is that normal?

    1. Wellness Mama Avatar
      Wellness Mama

      Yes, it depends a lot on the type of conditioner and it also changes over time

  8. Lisa Hickey Avatar
    Lisa Hickey

    After simmering the marshmallow root and water, then straining, I am left with only 1/3 C of liquid! Is this the amount that is supposed to be left over after simmering?
    Thanks!

  9. Tia Avatar

    Do you HAVE to use conditioner, or could I try apple cider vinegar instead? My hair looks awful with any kind of conditioner and frankly, a
    I hate the way it feels.

  10. Marissa Avatar

    Have you ever tried any Yarok products? The Feed Your Ends Leave In Conditioner is my savior. They’re a completely clean, vegan, and organic hair care brand that I wish I could buy all their products but they’re too expensive D: I’m so glad you mentioned Shea Moisture and Acure Organics also, they’re my favorite haircare lines (: But thank you for this recipe! If it works out I can save money by not using my Yarok as often, because I use it as a leave-in/detangler/heat protectant …

    1. Christi Avatar
      Christi

      You should try cold infusing the marshmallow root. When you boil it, you get some mucilage (the slippery stuff) but you also get the starches from the root. This could be impeding the effectiveness of your recipe. Cold infusing will give you more mucilage, little to no starch.

  11. Carlie Avatar

    I made up a batch of this tonight and I’m excited to try it and see how it fairs with my long, fine, easily tangled hair! I followed the directions carefully and used my favorite organic tea tree conditioner. I strained the mix well through cheesecloth prior to adding conditioner and EO. When I added the conditioner and stirred, shook, even whisked it, I could not get it to fully integrate/ dissolve and the mix appears very “chunky” due to the conditioner. I did let it cool a bit before I added it but I don’t know if perhaps it was too hot or my conditioner just isn’t dissolving as well as yours. Have you had any trouble with this? I tried to re- strain to remove the chunks but it just clogged up the cheesecloth and made a big mess.

    1. Lisa Hickey Avatar
      Lisa Hickey

      Hi Carlie, This same thing happened to me! When I finished the simmering process I had only about 1/3 C of liquid left as opposed to the 1.5 C from the start. Did you find you had a lot less liquid as well??

      1. Carlie Avatar

        Yes it did! I actually started out doubling the recipe to begin with because I have long hair and I wanted the spray to last a while. When I was finished it seemed like there was about half of what I had started with and I ended up making a second double batch! Now I have just over a liter, with four batches. I still don’t know what happened with the conditioner, though. I’ve since strained out the rest of the separated, chunky pieces of it. The spray feels nice on my hair and makes it shinier but does nothing to detangle it without conditioner.

      2. Carlie Avatar

        Yes it did! I actually started out doubling the recipe to begin with because I have long hair and I wanted the spray to last a while. When I was finished it seemed like there was about half of what I had started with and I ended up making a second double batch! Now I have just over a liter, with four batches. I still don’t know what happened with the conditioner, though. I’ve since strained out the rest of the separated, chunky pieces of it. The spray feels nice on my hair and makes it shinier but does nothing to detangle it without conditioner.

    2. Jen Avatar

      Try adding more water to bring it back to about 2-3 cups and then wizz it in the blender

    3. Avery Avatar

      Might be because your conditioner wasn’t natural. Certain synthetic ingredients may not fully dissolve or incorporate from the nature of the ingredients meant to coat to the hair.

  12. Simone Duerksen Avatar
    Simone Duerksen

    I’m so excited to try this recipe for my 4 year old daughter, who also insists on having hair down to her waist, but hates letting me comb it! I’m just wondering if Marshmallow leaves would have the same effect as Marshmallow root, since all I can find in my town are the leaves… Thanks!

  13. Sari Dweck Avatar
    Sari Dweck

    This is a God-send! My 6 year old daughter also HATES having her hair brushed but INSISTS on keeping it down to her waist. Brushing is usually ok on washing days but in between can be rough, especially when she’s had her hair loose all day. I’ll have to try this. Just not sure where to find marshmallow root here in Israel. The hunt is on!

  14. Autumn Doan Avatar
    Autumn Doan

    Why did you remove the nettle from the recipe? Love Shea Moisture products to have on hand too!

  15. Jill betts Avatar
    Jill betts

    I made this yesterday and I think it came out ok. I tried it on the kids last night and their hair combed right out. I only used one tbs of conditioner because they have fine, thin hair and it seemed to be enough. I can’t wait to try it on myself!

  16. Katie McGee Avatar
    Katie McGee

    I am a stylists with curly hair, and I also have a “tender headed” 3 yr old daughter with curly hair who’s hair is even at 3, way thicker than mine! And after a year and a half of fighting and crying at bath time, I found the book “curly girl” by Lorraine Massey. She to believes in a more natural non toxic approach. The book is great. I went as a stylist and invested in a class she offers on cutting and washing curly hair. It has really changed our hair lives lol. I remember BEING one of those tender headed kids. Ironically, the main thing she teaches is to leave a good amount of the conditioner in the hair. And sprits the hair and scalp on non washing days with distilled water with lavender oil to eliminate
    BO. Which both main ingredienst in your detailing recipe.

    1. jenny Avatar

      The Curly Girl book changed my hair life too 🙂 so much easier than the years of misery and amounts of money I spent fighting my curls. Now I take better care of my hair.

      I made this detangling conditioner tonight. It is amazing!!!! I was using a mix of water and ACV as a detangler and it worked pretty well. but still lots of tears. even with the special hairbrush mentioned above. That brush did cut brushing time in half though. And this wonderful conditioner cut brushing time in half again. It is still a struggle, but at least it is only a struggle for 1/4 the amount of time. Thank you, Wellness Mama 🙂 and my 2 and 4 year old girls thank you also.

    2. Heather Avatar
      Heather

      Oh Katie McGee, I wish you lived by me!!! (Do you happen to live in Utah?) I think having a stylist who understands curly hair is priceless. I just do not feel like people who do not have curly hair get it fully! So awesomeness. And I am so getting that book.

  17. cecilia Avatar

    how do you make this with the nettle. my daughter’s hair is still super fine and thick, like baby hair, but she is 8. i’d like to do anything to help her hair growth and fill in more completely.

    1. Wellness Mama Avatar
      Wellness Mama

      Just simmer nettle leaf in to the water and strain before using. Gelatin and omega-3 internally can also help with hair growth

      1. Ornella Burns Avatar
        Ornella Burns

        Just need to jump in, Omega 3 clarification should be always have it in natural form eg: white fish, shellfish etc not the oil as it is processed to stay liquid and is a dangerous trans fat. (PUFA) oxidizes in your system

      2. Jillian Avatar

        How do you know how much nettle leaf to use. And, can you use whole nettle leaf or powder?

  18. Roshini Muralidharan Avatar
    Roshini Muralidharan

    Thank you! COuld you please fix the link for the spray bottle from amazon? It links to Shea Moisture baby ointment. I have long thick very curly hair and have been using Mane n Tail detangler because I couldn’t find a natural recipe that worked. Will definitely give this a try.

    1. Elvina Stone Avatar
      Elvina Stone

      Glad to hear it wasn’t just me. I was going to order this bottle for my daughter’s hair.

    1. Wellness Mama Avatar
      Wellness Mama

      Either will work as long as it is strained out really well but I use whole

      1. Abbie Avatar

        Could you use Marshmallow root extract? If so how much should you use? I found this on amazon called, “Nature’s Answer Marshmallow Root”.

        1. Wellness Mama Avatar

          I haven’t tried that but it might work… It is in liquid dorm so you might have to experiment with the amount, though. Let us know if you try it, and how it works!

      2. Shan Avatar

        I’ve never worked with and don’t understand the marshmallow root thing, does it dissolve in the water or do you just leave it floating around in the bottle? –Thanks

        1. Debra Avatar

          No, it doesn’t dissolve…but it does produce a “gel” like substance when you cook it. you will need to strain it though. Whatever doesn’t go thru the strainer gets tossed out. The rest you would add to the bottle, along with whatever conditioner and/or oils you want.

      3. Inez R. Avatar

        Just an FYI this is not a Natural Conditioner, I really appreciate your recipe with the exception of “adding conditioner” Commercial conditioner has additives ( preservative that are not natural among other unhealthy additives) To have a natural product everything added should be all natural. With that being said, I made this detangling spray omitted the 2tsp of conditioner of your choice, and it turned out great !

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