I constantly strive to make the holidays less stressful and more enjoyable. In an effort to pare down on the holiday craziness, we vowed to give experiences instead of stuff whenever possible and give only a couple high-quality gifts instead of lots of cheap ones that break the next day. We wanted to lessen the focus on gifts, and instead place it on the meaning of Christmas and our time together as a family.
Enter Advent…
(Note: If Advent isn’t something your family participates in, this post may not be for you and you might prefer these stocking stuffer ideas or creative ways to be generous this year instead.)
What Is Advent?
Advent is the four week period prior to Christmas when Christians reflect on the meaning behind this holiday. Though you wouldn’t know it from the stores, the Christmas season actually STARTS on Christmas, not ends.
In fact, Christmas Day is the end of Advent and the beginning of the actual Christmas season. It also marks the start of the “Twelve Days of Christmas,” which ends on the Feast of the Epiphany on January 6th.
Why Celebrate Advent?
For us, Advent is a key time of reflection, preparation, and family time. The significance of this season is often marked by Advent wreaths and calendars that help us focus on the real meaning of the Christmas feast (more on these below) and a general waiting, waiting, waiting in anticipation for the excitement of Christmas.
If you’d like to learn more about Advent or begin celebrating it in your home, here are some ideas from our own family traditions to get you started!
Advent Wreath
A typical Advent wreath involves an evergreen wreath with four candles (three purple, one rose). Each Sunday of Advent, an additional candle is lit. The purple candles are reminders of the prayer, penance, and preparatory sacrifices and good works undertaken at this time. The rose candle is lit on the third Sunday, Gaudete Sunday, to represent a time of rejoicing, because this marks the midpoint of Advent.
How to Make an Advent Wreath at Home
I decided early on to make our Advent wreath from scratch (anyone surprised?), not only to save money but also because I’m not a fan of most candles and wanted to use beeswax candles instead. I also didn’t love the idea of a wreath that would sit in the attic the rest of the year and not have a purpose so I decided to make a non-toxic, reusable Advent wreath. (Side note, early in our marriage, my husband had an Advent wreath with candles that he had owned for years, and when we stored it in the attic, all the candles melted one summer and caused a HUGE mess!)
Turns out, there are not really any search results that help with that so I looked around at things I already had in the house. I love the final product and you might already have all of the supplies laying around your house like I did!
DIY Advent Wreath Supplies Needed
- 4 mason jars (or any jar of similar size) – I used what I had, but these are lovely if you don’t already have some
- 4 beeswax candles (or make your own)
- 1 large plate or wooden tray (big enough to fit the four mason jars)
- purple and pink ribbon (this reversible ribbon would be perfect!) or other items that can be used to signify the different colors
- assorted evergreen clippings from outside
DIY Advent Wreath Tutorial
I’m all about keeping things simple and this wreath is no exception. This Advent wreath takes only a couple minutes to make and after Advent can be disassembled and used for other purposes until the season rolls around again.
- Find a plate or tray big enough to fit all four mason jars and place them on it. (Don’t worry too much about it being decorative; the evergreen pieces will cover most of it.)
- Put a beeswax candle inside each mason jar.
- Tie a piece of twine or ribbon around each jar to denote which color candle it is.
- Clip some evergreen pieces and pinecones and place them around the candles on the plate/tray.
- Violà! You have an advent wreath!
If your family likes doing crafts together, you may also enjoy putting together a DIY Christmas Garland to Spruce up Your Home.
Advent Calendar
Advent calendars are a fun way to count down the days until Christmas. There are countless variations and styles (including some themed!). Often, there is a little treat that corresponds with each day. There are store bought options too, like these:
but we prefer a handmade yearly calendar. Our handmade advent calendar encourages a spirit of giving and kindness.
We have a hanging cloth wall calendar with a small envelope pinned to it for each day of Advent. Inside each envelope is a card with a small good deed or act of kindness that we can all do that day. This helps all of us keep the focus on giving rather than receiving. I used this DIY tutorial as a template and printed cards with acts of kindness to go in each mini envelope.
Nativity Set (or Creche)
In our family, the nativity scene (also called a creche) is a special reminder of the reason we celebrate Christmas. We have several that we put out at the beginning of Advent each year including:
- The Kid Set: We’ve pretty much always had babies and toddlers in the house and we got this unbreakable nativity set from the grandparents one year. It is great for little ones who want to be hands-on.
- Fontanini: We have an ever-growing set of Fontanini figures. We add one piece per year. I love these because they are indestructible and look pretty realistic too.
- Willow Tree: This is the set in the background of the picture above. I love the simple look of this set and it goes in the middle of our dining room table during this part of the year.
Advent Christmas Angel
Some people do Elf on the Shelf, and we do the Christmas Angel! You can find any stuffed angel and it acts a prop to get kids (and parents!) thinking about what acts of kindness to do for others. Ours leaves notes for the kids and encourages them to do something kind for someone or gives them ideas on how to be kind. Sometimes, the angel leaves some kindness along the way with some chocolates or little gifts for the kids.
Advent Books for Kids
These are fantastic children’s read-aloud books for Advent that the whole family will enjoy!
- The Miracle of St. Nicholas
- The Donkey’s Dream
- The Legend of the Poinsettia
- Lucia: Saint of Light
- Merry Christmas, Strega Nona
A Not-So-Merry Tradition: The Krampus!
Family traditions happen in funny ways. This Advent post wouldn’t tell the whole story of our Advent traditions unless it included: The Krampus!
Never heard of it?
Me neither, until I heard my husband’s stories from college. He studied in Austria and picked up on this well-known German Advent tradition.
The Krampus is a rather frightening half-man, half-goat figure well known throughout Germany, Austria, Hungary, Slovenia, and the Czech Republic. The story goes that Krampus travels with Saint Nicholas, leaving coal for naughty children or scaring them into behaving. The Eve of Saint Nicholas’ Day is even called Krampusnacht, or Krampus Night, in Austria and some other parts of Europe.
While the Krampus is no Christmas angel, it’s a story that stuck with my husband and the kids have fun hearing it each Advent to heighten the suspense before we celebrate St. Nicholas’s Feast Day on December 6th. Hear a fun, light-hearted version of the Krampus story here.
Your turn! I’d love to hear if your family does anything during Advent and what traditions you have … share below!
Katie; wonderful post. Really like that You go against the grain and not fall into the mass media commercialism of Christmas. I was looking to get some decorations for our new home. So glad I came across Your post and decided to make the Advent wreath. Me and my children had so much fun making it; coloring twine, gathering evergreens and pine cones in the forest. At the same time it was/is a great learning experience about the Advent season. Now we just need to get matches. 🙂
Thanks so much for sharing how your family celebrates this holy season! We celebrate in many if not all of the same ways, using Advent as a season of preparation! My husband and I both come from families of 11 and now have 4 of our own children. As they grow I follow your blog and am always finding new, healthy ways to celebrate our long time family traditions! Thanks so much for all you do; we absolutely love your podcast and I await your new episodes with much anticipation each week! I know how much work it is, but your passion is so encouraging and we are constantly looking for ways to make our kids lives mess toxic so THANK YOU!!! Have a blessed advent and a Merry Christmas!
Thanks for your kind words!
I love your information here. It’s fascinating how much traditions differ. Advent is not something that I’d ever focused on in my family before, although I’ve heard the term countless times over the year.
According to the veracity & authority of Scripture (the Bible), where the foundations of the authentic Christian faith are found. Jesus Christ, the son of God, was conceived by the Holy Spirit, and not by “Insemination”.
I’m sorry you felt you had to criticize those who were sharing their family traditions, which is what this blog was about.
Katie asked…Your turn! I’d love to hear if your family does anything during Advent and what traditions you have … share below!
I think it’s wonderful for families and parents to make the experience of the birth of Christ as full and rich as it can be. It is a Holy Season, and the more we can share of God’s love with our children, the more equipped they will be to live in this world that tries so hard to exterminate Christ. The world could use more love and kindness, and the children more Truth and understanding of those who followed the Lord Jesus who came to earth to teach us how to live.
Great article, Katie! We also make an Advent Wreath & light it each week. I also love to take the kids to see A Christmas Carol every year! It is a tradition started by my friend’s mom when I was younger. She took all the kids in the neighborhood plus her own (12!). So many find memories of that! We also celebrate St. Nick’s Day & yes the story is true! St. Nick secretly left gold so the poor girls could have dowries to find husbands!!
Very special! So many memories like this come from my childhood too.
It’s really nice hearing your Christmas traditions. I grew up with the center of Christmas on the Creche also. It’s such a great memory and it always felt larger than life! When your older you look back and see that it wasn’t that beautiful but at the time we were in awe. With the light behind the angel at the top of the manger. It’s a very special memory and one I hope I’ve passed to my kids and their kids! Thanks for sharing, love your blog and Merry Christmas to you and yours! A Blessed Net Year too!
It’s odd that you wrote about”the meaning of Christmas” in your article, yet other than an out of focus glimpse of some figurines depicting (I assume) Joseph, Mary & the baby Jesus, the rest of the article missed the REAL meaning of Christmas altogether.
“Christmas” is based on the miraculous Insemination of Mary & the following birth of the Christ (Saviour) child, as recorded in the Word of God (the Bible), where all factual information about the one true living God, & God the Son originated.
All the stories & traditions about Saint this one & Saint that one, warm & fuzzy as they may make us feel, are just that, stories & traditions, with questionable origins, and none have the veracity & authority of Scripture (the Bible), where the foundations of the authentic Christian faith are found..
The REAL meaning of Christmas, as recorded in Scripture, is that God (The Father) so loved the World (people) that He gave His only begotten Son ( who had lived & reigned with the Father since long before the World was ever created (John 17:5), that whosoever believes (trusts) in Him shall have everlasting life (John 3:16 & elsewhere).
THIS was & is, the greatest gift ever given to mankind, & it was HIS example (of giving) that I believe started the tradition of giving gifts at Christmas.
We have an Advent wreath every year and only sing Advent songs at church until Midnight Mass Christmas morning which is grand and glorious. We wait until the last week to set up our tree and leave it up until at l;east January 12th. Our Nativity set is up with baby Jesus absent until Christmas and the three wise men traveling around the room until Jan. 6th. We have shoes out for St. Nicholas’ feast day which have fruit, nuts and healthy snacks in them the morning of Dec. 6th and we do the same for Epiphany on Jan. 6th. Once, I had little gifts for each of the 12 days of Christmas! We have also had a Jesse tree where we add ornaments symbolizing old testament moments along the journey to the revealing of our Savior, David’s harp, angel Gabriel,
Oops, posted without editing possibility! So other Jesse Tree symbols are the apple in the Garden of Eden, Jacob’s staff, burning bush, Jonah’s big fish, the 10 Commandments, sheep, dove, etc., etc.,… you get the picture! We all sing and act in many of the Christmas plays at church as well. One of our sons and one of our daughters (we have 7 kids in all with 20 grandchildren so far), played Joseph and Mary in 2016. The same daughter was baby Jesus 25 years ago! Our family has never lost the true focus of the Christmas holidays because of our observances and traditions!
My 11 children are all grown now, but many many years ago, I began the tradition of St Nicholas.
The children would each leave one shoe, and they were all lined up under the Christmas tree in our kitchen, and while they were asleep, St. Nicholas would arrive. The children would leave carrots and hay for St Nicholas’ horse, which of course would disappear in the night. In the morning St Nicholas would have left each child a special Christmas ornament in their shoe, along with a few Pepperidge Farm holiday cookies, and several gold foil wrapped chocolate coins, to commemorate the bag of gold coins the real St Nicholas left for young girl many years ago.
Oh what joy in the morning, as each child found their own special ornament! I spent hours finding and picking just the right one for each child based on their loves and interests.
Over a childhood they each received 18-20+ ornaments that they now hang on their own Christmas trees in their homes with their families. When they get them out they remember their own childhood and the special times they had at home with Mom and Dad and their brothers and sisters growing up. Several of my daughters have passed on the tradition with their own children, and now a Family tradition has begun. Santa didn’t come to our house, but St. Nicholas came every year, and my children have their ornaments to prove he really was here. God’s blessings and Merry Christmas to you and your family, and especially to children everywhere.
This is very sweet and makes my heart feel full! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for all the neat DIY stuff Although am now in the ancient great-grammaw category, Christmas always a time for cherishing good friends along the way. My kids’ godmother had an Advent custom, since our church always had a big crafts and Christmas paraphernalia sale late November or first thing December. Although godmother had five of her own, for the church sale she always piled a couple of elderly ladies into her car, went to the sale, and got an Advent Calendar for my brood. Which left me free to do some treats like homemade caramel corn (which now would be organic popcorn and grassfed butter! but such a fresher taste than the tinned). Yay traditions, some of ’em “crowd sourced”. Best of the whole Blessed Season to all. Clare Templeton