Menstrual cups are one of those things that may seem strange at first but you fall in love with eventually. The bidet may be another. The bidet isn’t that common in the United States but is gaining in popularity.
My husband and I travel quite a bit for work and have tried our fair share of bidets. Here’s the good, the bad, and the ugly and why we’re considering putting one in our home.
Might be perfect timing since we can’t find any toilet paper at the store!
What Is a Bidet?
To put it factually (and not delicately), bidets are bathroom fixtures that use water pressure to wash genital or anal areas after using the toilet.
The first bidet appeared in the 18th century in France. “Bidet” is a French word for “pony.” The idea is that you straddle the bidet the same way you would a pony.
At that time it was invented and for a while afterward, the bidet was used in the bedroom along with a chamber pot. In the early 20th century when modern plumbing came to be, the bidet moved to the bathroom.
Bidets are common in southern European countries like Italy, Spain, and Portugal where they’re now mandatory. They’re also popular in other European countries and in some parts of South America, South-East Asia, South Asia, Japan, and the Middle East.
Kinds of Bidets
The bidet comes in three main varieties. The stand-alone bidet, the bidet shower (also called a handheld bidet or bidet sprayer), and the add-on bidet. The one that you choose will depend on your needs.
The stand-alone bidet (also called a bidet toilet) looks like a low sink or water fountain (don’t drink from them!) that is often sitting right next to the toilet and takes up the same amount of space. It often has warm water and cold water knobs to adjust the temperature of the water.
Instead of having to install something new, an add-on bidet (also known as a bidet toilet seat) is an easy way to add one to your bathroom without a renovation. This is a small bidet attachment that goes on the toilet seat, or it can also be a new toilet seat with the bidet already attached. This bidet sprays water at the designated area with the touch of a button.
Some add-on bidets use cold water only. (It’s thought that the thin stream of water used won’t cause you to feel cold.) Others tie into hot water lines or heat water themselves. Some are electric and some are non-electric.
The bidet shower is a handheld plumbing fixture that’s a lot like the kitchen sink sprayer or a diaper sprayer. With this kind of bidet, you have to aim the bidet spray nozzle in the right direction. This handheld bidet sprayer can be difficult to use for people who have low mobility or injuries that make it difficult for them to do this. The bonus: it’s inexpensive and doesn’t usually require professional installation.
We actually had one of these for years for cleaning cloth diapers, but I never once thought about using it as a bidet!
Still not sure you’d try one? This model has an automatic seat, remote control, massaging wash, self-cleaning function, and even blows warm air for a truly clean and dry finish! If you take your “throne” seriously, this may be the one for you.
The bidet is an unusual (and sometimes cringe-worthy) bathroom accessory for many Americans, but for others, they’re a new necessity. Some people who have traveled abroad discovered the bidet during their trip and became fans. Others can’t get over the strangeness of the idea. Still, others are somewhere in the middle.
Here are some of the reasons our European friends swear we’ll never go back to TP alone once we make the switch:
Most people agree that the bidet can give a better cleaning than toilet paper alone (especially if you’re using a water filter). And if you think about it, it makes sense. We use water to wash every other part of our body, why not the derriere? Many people are beginning to use wet wipes in place of dry toilet paper. They see the benefit of using water to clean up after using the toilet. The bidet is just another way of using water to achieve the cleanest clean.
Save Trees (and Money)
While many of us don’t think very much about toilet paper (or conserving it), the truth is we use a lot of toilet paper every year. Having a bidet doesn’t necessarily eliminate the need for toilet paper, but it can reduce it quite a bit. Americans use an average of 50 lbs of toilet paper a year. Compare that to the average of countries in Europe at about 23 lbs. Presumably, if we used the bidet in the U.S., we could reduce toilet paper consumption by about half.
There’s also the price to consider. Toilet paper is considered a staple so many don’t even acknowledge the cost. But the U.S. spends 6 billion dollars annually on toilet paper! Reducing toilet paper use could save a decent amount of money for each family or household.
One unexpected benefit of the bidet is that they can actually save water. Production of toilet paper uses a lot of water and if we reduce toilet paper use we also reduce water consumption.
Let’s do some math:
The bidet uses 1/8th of a gallon of water per cleaning. In contrast, one roll of toilet paper requires 37 gallons of water (plus 1.3 kilowatt/hours (KWh) of electricity and about 1.5 pounds of wood). In my house, one roll of toilet paper doesn’t last long, especially with littles around. Even if you use toilet paper along with the bidet, it can still save a lot of water.
Good for Those With Limited Mobility
Using toilet paper is something that requires a certain level of flexibility and strength. This seems small to those of us that are fit and healthy but to others, it may be a concern. Some aging people or those with injuries or disabilities may be able to regain toilet independence with the use of a bidet. That can mean a huge improvement in the quality of life for these people!
Good for Sensitive Skin
For people who are prone to hemorrhoids, rashes or other issues that cause irritation, the bidet may be great. Women who have just given birth may benefit from using a bidet instead of toilet paper. Wiping with toilet paper can cause some irritation, and when irritation is already an issue, it can be hard to stay clean. Water, on the other hand, is soothing and a great cleaning agent.
Additionally, toilet paper may smear bacteria around instead of removing it. A 2017 study found that bidet use reduced hemorrhoids and urogenital infections.
Of course, there are also some drawbacks to the bidet. Here are some of the sticking points many people have when considering the switch.
Cost and Space
Depending on the kind of bidet you’re after, the cost could be high. For example, if you have your heart set on a stand-alone bidet, the cost of the bidet itself isn’t the only thing to consider. Many bathrooms don’t already have space next to the toilet for a bidet, so a large renovation is likely needed. Even some add-on bidets can be hundreds of dollars. They have great features like heated water and timers, but you’ll pay for those.
However, if you’re happy with a basic add-on bidet, the cost can be reasonable and it takes up no extra room.
Whether it’s just feeling weird about the bidet, or the actual physical discomfort of adjusting to bidet use, some people can have a hard time getting over the weird feelings associated with the bidet. Americans, in general, have a negative association with the bidet. There are a few theories as to why. According to this article:
- The bidet came from France in the 18th century. Britain wasn’t too friendly toward the French at that time. The theory is their sour outlook perhaps followed colonists to America.
- During World War II, accounts tell of American soldiers who encountered bidets in French brothels. They could have brought home the association that bidets were immoral or dirty.
- Americans are conservative and didn’t even like to talk about toilet paper for the longest time. (Around 1930, the German paper company Hakle advertised their toilet paper with conservatism in mind, “Ask for a roll of Hakle and you won’t have to say toilet paper!”)
Whatever the reason, it hasn’t caught on in the States although it’s widely used in other parts of the world.
How to Use a Bidet
For those who are ready to give the bidet a try, here are the basics for using one.
- After using the toilet move to the stand-alone bidet. You can straddle the bidet facing forward or facing the back (where the controls are). It depends on the model and what you want to clean. They usually don’t have bidet seats, but you can sit on the rim instead of straddling.
- Some stand-alone bidets are designed to be filled with water like a sink. In that case, you use your hand to clean the area. Others use a vertical spray of water to clean the area.
- Adjust the temperature until it’s comfortable (you can put your hand over the stream to test). Turn on the stream of water to wash the area.
- When using an add-on bidet, activate the bidet after using the toilet. The bidet will spray water until you turn it off. Some have a drying function as well.
- When using a bidet shower, simply aim the showerhead at the area you want to wash and turn it on.
- Some people use just the bidet but others use the bidet and toilet paper (either before or after bidet use).
There are many varieties of bidets so it’s best to read the directions for your specific bidet before using. Some have an adjustable spray, and other settings to investigate.
Bottom Line on Bidets
Bidets have gotten a bad rap in the U.S. (or no rap at all). But they may be a good choice as an alternative (or addition) to toilet paper. Bidets are hygienic (many would argue more so than toilet paper!) and save toilet paper. Toilet paper production costs a lot in water usage, wood, and energy to produce, so the bidet may be a perfect way to reduce our need for single-use products.
I’ll let you know what we settle on and how we like it!
Have you tried a bidet? Do you love or hate them (or fall somewhere in the middle)?