An Open Letter to Moms on Mother’s Day

An open letter to all moms on Mothers Day

Several years ago, a video called “The World’s Toughest Job” went viral. In this video, people came in to interview for a job for “Director of Operations” and were told that it required 135+ hours per week with no vacation, no sick days and no pay.

They were told it would be physically and emotionally exhausting, and very painful in the first few weeks. That other employees would often yell, hit, and even urinate on them and that the job would be thankless.

Of the 2.7 million people who saw the ad, only 24 inquired about the job and the interviewees responded with shock or bewilderment when they heard the job requirements…

When they revealed that this “most important job” was a job that billions do daily: motherhood, it brought many of the applicants to tears.

What is in a Mother’s Day?

The US version of Mother’s Day was created in 1908 by Anna Jarvis and at the time, it was the only holiday that honored women. When it became overly commercialized, she denounced it and spent the rest of her life trying to remove it from the calendar.

Now, 25% of all flowers purchased during the year are bought on Mother’s Day. It is the day of the year with the most phone calls (122 million in the US alone) and about 14 billion dollars are spent each Mother’s Day.

In theory, it is great that we have a day to honor moms, and I hope that all of us do this everyday, but I personally don’t like the over-commercialized version that we have now. I certainly appreciate the sweet cards from my children today, but how is today any more special as a mom than any other day?

How is this day more of a “Mother’s Day” than the day I found out I was expecting a child and became a mom? How is it more important than the six days that were spent bringing my babies into the world?

Does today mean more than the other 364 days a year when we get our children up, feed them, teach them, take them to their various activities and safely tuck them into bed?

How is today more of a day to honor moms than the days we have all stayed up with sick children, or kissed boo-boos, or even had to say earthly good-byes to our children?

At the end of the day, we don’t need a day, because we have all of them.

The Secret all Moms Know

Here’s the thing. Everything in the video about the world’s toughest job is true.

Motherhood is hard. It’s the hardest job there is.

From the very beginning it is intensely painful (childbirth anyone?), physically demanding, emotionally and mentally exhausting.

You get to trade the body and life that you once had for stretch marks (and often incision scars) and a screaming mini dictator that demands 110% of your time and attention.

You say goodbye to showers, and going to the bathroom alone, and a completely clean house (at least for the first few years).

Your boobs sag, your hair falls out (either from pregnancy or stress at some point) and you don’t sleep for approximately 5.8 years….

You make the decision to forever have your heart walking around outside your body, sometimes multiple times. You give birth to someone you love more than you ever thought it was possible to love and realize that you might crumble if you ever lost this person, this part of you…. and sometimes you do.

And the crazy part is that you’d do it all again and wouldn’t trade it for the world…

Because we are the ones that they run to when they are hurt, and ask to tuck them in at night, and the ones they say “I love you” to.

They may not appreciate us until they have kids of their own (Mom- I truly appreciate you now, I’m sorry for all the trouble I was growing up and I love you), but that doesn’t matter…

Because motherhood isn’t just beautiful because they love you, but also because by loving them, you become better each day.

Because when we go to bed each night, often exhausted, we have accomplished something important each and every day.

Own Your Strength…

I often get asked “do you work, or are you just a mom?”

This question bothers me because in my opinion, moms work extremely hard, whether they have a job outside the home or not.

Here’s the tradeoff though:

Moms also have much more power than we realize…

Day to day, we are raising the next generation. We are teaching the future world leaders, school teachers, scientists and mothers of the world. We are forming the minds and hearts of the next generation.

More than any other job, ours matters.

We may often go to bed at night wishing we’d done better that day or feeling bad that we didn’t have more patience or that we didn’t keep the house cleaner, but we did the most important thing that day… we were moms. Imperfectly wonderful moms.

Creating Change on Mother’s Day

Incredible power comes with this incredible responsibility of motherhood. We control the majority of our country’s spending power. We control the food budget. We make or influence 85% of all purchasing decisions, according to Edison Research.

Here’s my humble proposal….

This year, let’s make Mother’s day a celebration of the real power of moms and start taking ownership of our collective power as moms.

Let’s vote with our dollars and start increasing the demand for healthier foods and products by choosing them for our own families. Let’s create a healthier future for our children.

Happy Everyday

As a mom myself, I have so much respect for the work that all women and moms do each day. It’s nice to have a day, but I celebrate you everyday and my whole purpose with this blog is to make moms lives easier each day.

So whenever you read this, Happy Mother’s Day!

To all moms and step-moms…

Grandmothers and Godmothers…

Those who hope and pray to become mothers and those who have lost children or their own Mothers…

Happy Mother’s Day, today and everyday!

Are you #JustAMom like me? Will you help me harness our collective spending power to change our families health for the better?

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  1. Tears. Sighs. Awe. Well said, thank you! Also, hats off to YOU Katie…for sharing your well researched information over such a large spectrum of home producrs, food and health in order to work along side of so many Mothers in making healthier choices for our families. Here’s to all those moms out there…either biological or not…keep keepin on as the time and energy you put into your children will pay off in wonderful ways as they grow…Proverbs 22:6.

  2. Happy Mother’s Day to the wellness Mama of us all. Thank you for this beautiful post, blessings to you.

  3. Thanks for this. It was very nice. My mother-in-law passed away in her sleep this past Monday while my family and I were visiting her home. It has been an emotionally and physically exhausting week. Everyone is missing her this Mother’s Day.

  4. Happy mothers day Kaite

  5. You continue to inspire and influence me in making healthier and smarter choices for my family. You continue to educate moms like myself through your research time and effort and I truly appriciate that! Thank you for sharing your gift of knowledge and how to live a better life in this toxic world of ours, not only for ourselves but for our families. I am a stay at home mom of 2 and I often feel there are not enough hours in the day and am forever tired.. Thank you for making us moms feel valid and appreciated with your words of heartwarming understanding! Happy Mothers Day to you and all year through. Best Wishes to you and your beautiful Family. Keep the great recipes and awesome articles coming!! Hats off to you xoxo Bravo

  6. This made me cry, in a good way. Although I have just started my journey 1.5 yrs ago, as a 24/7 momma, holding 3 degrees and a medical provider license, I put my career on hold to stay home with my daughter and soon to be newborn son. I can not even begin to explain with words the emense joy, love, contentedness that overwhelms my once unsatisfying life. God has blessed my home and to be a helpmeet and mother is the best honor and blessing I could have ever asked for or received. Happy Mother’s Day ladies!

  7. You are so wonderful! You have really changed my outlook on healthy living and have inspired me to provide the healthiest future for me, my hub, and our future little ones. Im not a mother just yet, ive only just turned 18, but I cannot wait to have my darling future children! Happy mothers day to all!!

  8. Of course I cried when I read your wonderful letter! As a daughter, mom, grandma, and great grandma, I know that it is most important to me now to pass along the ideas and importance of healthy living to my family and friends. My best to you and your family everyone of these “mother’s days”. Thank you so much for your mission.

  9. Well said! Guess you could say I am a veteran mom-33 years of love and devotion. But my service is not complete, six beautiful grandchildren call me Mama Jeanie. It’s an honor to have given birth to three children, adopted two, and mothered 15 more over the years. I never viewed motherhood as raising children because we are given children. My job was to raise functioning adults, yes, the next generation. I worked a job, owned a business, and if you asked my kids what ‘I did’ they would say that I stayed at home. Funny how they slept so soundly while I worked until 3 in the morning! Being the mother I need to be was easy because I had a partner to share the load, to listen to me cry and to rub my knots from my neck-by best friend, my Husband. The super heroes of today are single moms. Moms that carry the whole load. I would like to say to all of you ‘stay at home’ moms to be strong and of good courage. When I receive a text from my adult children for no reason telling me they love me, that is Mother’s Day. When they thank me for having them, yes, that is Mother’s Day. When I walk into a room and my son stands up and says, “Hey everybody, that’s my mom”, you guessed it………

  10. Wow Katie, I hope to be a mom in the near future and reading this brought tears to my eyes! So well written and beautiful. Thank you for inspiring me as the mom that you are and thanks for all the the work you and all the moms out there do! It truly is an under appreciated job at times.

  11. Beautifully written!!! Thank you!!! I needed to read this encouraging post today. With 3 active little ones, life can be very hard. Love your blog!

  12. Beautifully written! Thank you!

  13. Beautiful letter that brought happy tears to my eyes. Thank you Kathy for sharing so many positive posts, especially TTAC which I found absolutely amazing. A huge hug from my small country Switzerland (single mom of 2 kids) and a great fan of yours.

      • Hi Katie,
        I just have a proposal for you, could you write an article on epidurals and numbness as a side effect. I feel so many woman haven’t a clue about how bad they really can be.
        Thank-you for considering this and Happy Mothers Day!

      • Thank you for sharing a beautiful lettter, Happy Mother’s day every day!!!!!!!

  14. Thanks for the step-mom bit, Katie… It was nice of you to have such a thought.

    • I second that!! I love and cherish my stepmom so much! What an incredible blessing to have 2 mothers. For me, God took a sad situation of divorce and years later brought beauty out of the ashes with a bigger, awesome family. Anything is possible with God. And for all women out there (not just mothers), Proverbs 31:10-31 was written for you. Happy Mother’s Day

  15. Beautifully written! Thank you for this. I am SO happy to help you in creating change. Hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day!

  16. hi Katie, Beautifully written! made me cry. I also have the same thoughts about mother’s day. Being a mom is a all day job and need to be celebrated and appreciated everyday. I have been following your blog for over a year. You have made a great influence on me and my family. Just started making water kefir for my kids. Kids love it and I am having fun experimenting with the flavors. Had a first batch of Kombucha ready yesterday. Transitioned to all homemade body care products. Can’t thank you enough. Keep up the great work.

  17. Beautiful, powerful, and a much-needed read. You are so wonderful. And yes I will use my power to demand a better and healthier world for my children and others’!

  18. Thank you for your fine encouragements! You are an inspiring influence for mothers of all ages. I appreciate the way you graciously handle topics that can be quite controversial, in a way that takes the tension out of the discussion. Your style is disarming in the best sense, and you seem to have a wisdom beyond your years. I hope you will never compromise the wholeness of your own family while endeavoring to help so many others.

  19. LOVE THIS POST!! Thank you Katie for putting it into words!! AMEN!


  21. If sumone asked me do I work or am I just a mom, i would walk away laughing. There is nothing of worth i was going to hear from them that i cudnt get from another.
    Sick culture.

  22. Hi Katie you are so sweet, we need more teachers like you.

  23. Thank you for this post! As a homeschooling mom myself who tries hard to feed her family well, I often feel that I’m up against a huge wheel pushing us in the opposite direction. Family and friends who don’t share my passion for a healthy lifestyle and deliberate, healthful food choices, often act counter to what I do. I sometimes wonder if it’s worth it. I know, deep down, that it is, but the struggle is hard and most often unrecognized. In the same way that I nurture my children’s minds and souls, I must continue to nurture their bodies. I appreciate the support you give all of us moms in this noble endeavor. God bless you!

  24. This made me tear up. Thank you for this because we all need a reminder every now and again. It is a wonderful reminder to be the best mom I can be, to stress less and let everything else work itself out. Have a great day!

  25. Wow ! Well said Katie . Personally we don’t observe Mothers day for some of the very reasons you mentioned. We have however, over the years made changes that are better for our family.
    Refusing to purchase gmo foods for instance and relying in part on the non gmo verified project label for some purchases.
    We look for higher quality of Food. Pasture raised eggs and meat from a farm we can visit if possible . If we can’t verify we don’t buy. The money we don’t spend goes towards savings. For ex if we have $100 to spend and only can get $50 worth of good food purchases we save the extra $50 we don’t try to fill our fridge just so it’s full . we have also started doing something else. Choosing to have just what we need for each day. And planning meals. It’s made us really think about what foods we buy and realize that most of the foods at the grocery store are just to fill the shelves.
    Thanks to you a month ago we incorporated cod liver oil in our diet daily . I was one of the kids who was fortunate to have a mom chase me around with the stuff .?She also cooked broths at least once a week with tons of veggies. So a lot of the things remind me of childhood in a good way .
    As I see it the best we can hope for is to have a network of people who support change for their children in a good way . eventually good will prevail but being a part of promoting good takes effort and it’s satisfying to know that your choices even something as seemingly insignificant as food made a difference for the better in someone else’s life.

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