The Wellness Lifestyle Overview

Stop Dieting and Just be Healthy

Tired of counting calories?

Had enough of trying to get percentages of macronutrients?

Don’t really like Special K or Slim Fast anyway?

Great news… I am going to share with you what I wish I had known years ago when I wanted to drop a few sizes before I tried vegetarianism, the “low-fat” diet, the dehydrated fruit and veggie diet, the bean diet, the “eat whatever I want and exercise like mad” diet, and all the other craziness I attempted in the name of “losing weight.”

In the quest for a pre-pregnancy body, I tried cutting calories, the “zone” diet and practically every other diet under the sun, but none worked. I finally found the missing link. What I realized is that cutting calories alone is not enough, that any change that can’t be kept up over the long run, was not going to work. This led me to the lifestyle (I won’t call it a diet) that my family and I have today and the same one I now recommend to clients who are seeing the same great results.

Before we get to the specifics, there are some basic things we need to understand:

  1. Not all calories are created equal- If I had to name one of the biggest fallacies in nutrition and the “weight loss” industry today, it is the assumption that a calorie is a calorie and that weight maintenance is as simple as calories in:calories out. For instance, protein and carbs both have four calories per gram, while fat boasts a hefty 9 calories per gram, which leads to the idea that fat must be bad because it has more calories… right? If all the macronutrients (fats, proteins and carbohydrates) did the exact same things in our bodies, this might be logical, but the human body treats each of these molecules differently. Understanding this is the key to understanding why the “low-fat” diets of our time are only feeding (pun intended) the obesity epidemic.
  2. Fat is not the enemy– Though it has been demonized for a few decades, fat isn’t the cause of the problems we are seeing today (this seems logical to me, as these problems are increasing even as we eat “low-fat”). This is also the hardest thing for most people to accept when I work with them. To put it plainly, to be an optimal health, you must learn to eat and love the healthy fats that are so vital to your body’s proper function. What are the healthy fats? Certainly not hydrogenated and processed fats that are widely used like canola oil, vegetable oil, cottonseed oil, corn oil and safflower or sunflower oil. Prepare for cognitive dissonance… ready…. you must eat saturated fat!!! “Anything but that!” some protest. I understand this is one of the most difficult parts to understand as we have been inundated by the low-fat rhetoric our whole lives, but if you are here, I’m guessing that the other stuff hasn’t worked, and that hopefully you are ready to try something new. More on this below.
  3. Processed foods are the enemy– The majority of foods consumed in modern times are highly processed and very low in nutrients. In fact, corn and soybeans are two of the most-consumed foods in the US and most people don’t even realize they consume as much of these as they do because they are hidden in almost every food product. This entire post and blog could be summed up by simply encouraging you to only eat and use whole foods and ingredients from natural sources (and only put safe products on your body or in your home).
  4. Weight is a symptom– Reaching an maintaining a healthy body weight is not difficult once you understand what the body needs- While we have been led to believe that the process of eating healthy and burning fat is complex and expensive, it is really very simple and not expensive at all once you are eating real food. When you eat nutrient dense foods your body needs, cravings go away and you don’t need as much volume of food to be satisfied. The most freeing realization of my life was that reaching a healthy weight, performing at my peak athletically and feeling great come naturally to my body and don’t take much effort at all.

If you are ready to make the change, I suggest that you commit to real food and natural living 100% for 60 days. I already know that you will notice such amazing changes in your body that you will stick with it, but if you don’t, you haven’t lost anything and can go back to your old ways for the rest of your life.

  1. Drink Pure Water– Our bodies are 70% water, and muscle is up to 75% water so obviously we need water, but how much and what kind? While there are all kinds of theories out there about how much water you need, my theory is that your body will let you know. When you are thirsty, drink water. The confounding factor here is that if you are eating foods that aren’t good for your body like grains, hydrogenated fats, and sugars, your body’s natural ability to regulate thirst can be messed up. Many times, when we think we are hungry, we are really just thirsty. For this reason, I recommend drinking a large glass of water whenever you feel hungry and any other time throughout the day when you are thirsty. This post has information on how to make sure you have the most pure water possible in your home.
  2. Eat Real Food-The whole idea of wellness can be summed up in that one statement. That being said, there are specific foods that our bodies actually need, and some that it would prefer for you not to shove in it. In general, our bodies need foods that derive from plants and animals and pretty much don’t need and don’t like all the other stuff. Most people, including those who promote all the diets I tried, agree that vegetables are healthy and should be consumed so there isn’t usually too much trouble here, except that you do actually have to eat them for them to be good for you. The difficulty usually arises in convincing people that we need fats (in good forms from coconut, avocado, olives, nuts, meats, etc) and don’t need as many carbs and processed foods as we eat.
  3. Eat Only When Hungry- Just like with water, the body is very adapt at telling you how much food you need and when you need it, you just have to learn to listen to it again. The hardest part for most people (including me) to learn is to just listen to our bodies (and not our minds or our cravings) when it comes to eating. It was really hard for me to accept, for instance, that I didn’t need to eat three (or four, or five or six) times a day if I wasn’t hungry, but realizing this was one of the most freeing parts of the wellness lifestyle for me. Many people benefit tremendously from just learning to only eat when hungry and to stop eating when satisfied, rather than when the plate is empty or you belt gets tight.
  4. Exercise, but not too much– This was another freeing realization for me, that exercise is measured by quality not sheer quantity. In other words, those hour long mind-numbing jogs on a treadmill like a caged hamster weren’t the most effective form of exercise. As far as cardio goes, it is much more effective to do short bursts of really intense exercise rather than extended periods of moderate exercise. High intensity exercise works fast and slow twitch muscle fibers, improving both, while moderate extended exercise only improves the slow twitch fibers. This means that while extended moderate activity can improve endurance, high intensity can improve endurance and speed in less time. For all moms out there, this means you can improve your athletic ability and burn fat by sprinting as little as 20 minutes a week, total. Sure beats the heck out of hours of hamster jogging, huh?
  5. Breathe– This one seems easy, we do it all day, but most of us are not getting the amount of oxygen we should. The easiest way to increase this is to get a lot of low/moderate level activity that increases your oxygen requirements. Make a point to walk, hike, swim, play a sport or just do jumping jacks at least once a day. Aim for a few hours a week, but get it however you can. (For me, this is often a 6-hour hike on the weekend while holding a baby in a sling) You will get more oxygen, sleep better and improve muscle tone. Also, consider some easy ways to improve the air quality in your home.
  6. Avoid harmful chemicals– This seems pretty easy at first glance as well as long as you don’t have a taste for arsenic or a bleach, but this is perhaps the toughest part of a truly healthy lifestyle. While our ancestors probably only had to worry about toxins from poisonous plants and animals, we face them everyday in our foods, personal care products, even our air. While avoiding every potentially harmful chemical isn’t realistic these days, it does make sense to minimize exposure when we can. Make your own laundry soap for instance, to avoid the chemical cocktail in your conventional detergent. Cook at home and avoid the additives in restaurant food. Make your own deodorant and hairspray and eliminate dozens of chemicals in one step!
  7. Sleep– You’d think with all the research on the importance of sleep lately, we would have gotten the message, but for mom’s especially, this is a tough one. While nature (or a fussy 6 month old) won’t always allow for adequate sleep, it is good to aim for 7-8 hours per night, though some need more or less. The body needs sleep to function properly (or at all!) as organs process and revive during sleep, the endocrine system balances hormone levels, the immune system functions at a higher level and the brain recharges. Many people notice that just getting enough sleep makes a big difference in body weight. Try these steps for optimizing your sleep environment if you have trouble sleeping.
  8. Optimize Vitamin D-Vitamin D is one of the most crucial vitamins (actually a hormonal precursor) that our bodies need. It is also one that many people are deficient in. Vitamin D deficiency has been linked to increased rates of cancer, heart disease, skin conditions, inflammation, lowered immune function, and low levels of calcium.
  9. Don’t Stress– Ok, I’ll give you a second to stop laughing while I go remove my two-year old from the top of my fridge where she is throwing utensils at her siblings. This one is definitely easier said than done, especially for moms, but worth striving for. For some, like me, lowering stress requires making prayer life, exercise and 10 minutes of quiet reading parts of my regular daily activities. For a friend, this meant skydiving daily. For you, this means just finding whatever you can do, even if for only 1 minute, that will help you relax each day.
  10. Have fun– What does this say about us when we have to put this on a list to remember to do?! Fun and relaxation do wonders for recharging mind and body. Play outdoor games with the kids, go on a date with your spouse, or try a new sport.

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  1. I’ve read a lot of diet things in the past, but this seems Doable. I think I can manage this–at least for 60 days…Have you read the Primal Blueprint by Mark Sisson? A lot of what you talk about is echoed there. I’ve been seeing more and more lifestyle changes like this–so it’s time for me to try it! 🙂

    • I’ve read Mark’s books also…. a lot of good info in them too! Best of luck with your 60 days, I’d love to hear how it goes!

  2. I love your blog! Thanks so much for all this great advice.

  3. It was also proven that grains today have been genetically modified to contain up to 3 x the amount of gluten than 100 years back.  This amount of gluten is just so unhealthy!  Is it okay to eat fat from meat like lamb and beef in moderation?

    • absolutely! We even use tallow (beef) to cook!

  4. I just jumped on the wagon. I know you are just about to redo your blog. Quick question “I love bread” if no grains are allowed what do I do about bread? Make my own? With which ingredients? Almond flour?…..

    • There are almond flour recipes, coconut flour recipes (though they are better for biscuits) and some combinations of the two that involve flax meal too. Search for “paleo” breads and you’ll find some grain free options. I’ll also be posting some soon 🙂

  5. what about water? Filtered, spring? reverse osmosis’s? alkaline water? or city tap water? Which is best? What do you suggest?

  6. I’m ready to start, any tips on how to work with a super picky 9 year old who lives on peanut butter & jelly and refuses to eat vegetables? The only fruits he eats is are apples & pears. He also has been diagnosed as ADHD, which I believe may really be from poor nutrition. Help please!

    • I to have a very picky 8yr old who wants eggos and cheese it’s all day. I started making my own salad dressings from the recipes on wellness mama and adding those with celery and cucumber t o his lunch. I also make “panwiches” (I know, what we’ll say to get them to eat) which are sandwiches with coconut flour pancakes for the bread and almond butter/puréed strawberries. I put the strawberries between the almond butter and the “bread” doesn’t get soggy.

  7. I am SO thankful for your website and how consistent you are in what I teach in my practice. I am a nurse practitioner and 2 days a week, I do solely nutritional counseling for those with diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, etc. We have started to recommend your website on a daily basis here in TN! 🙂 Thank you!

    • Thanks so much! So glad to hear there are medical professionals recommending nutritional therapies! Thanks for reading and for recommending 🙂

  8. So I wanted to let you know I did your 60 day challenge 5 months ago and have stuck with this lifestyle. I have gone from 288lbs down to 226lbs! I still have a ways to go but I want to thank you for all you do. It has really helped me turn my life around!

  9. I love these suggestions. I am wondering if this lifestyle can work for vegetarians? I am opposed to eating animals for ethical reasons. I do eat eggs and dairy (but I don’t think dairy is good for us, really). It seems like cutting grains would be easier for people eating meat, but without meat, its hard to feel satisfied without grains. I also live in Peru, the land of potato and corn. Nuts and coconut oil are very expensive here so I simply cannot afford them as a large part of my diet. People eat lots of fruits, veggies, corn, and potatoes…along with chicken and eggs. There are very low rates of obesity. We live in the Andes and all the uphill hiking each day, the cold temperatures with no indoor heat, and the altitude makes you crave carbs and we don’t really gain weight eating them in excessive quantities. That said, I am not sure its healthy even if we don’t have trouble maintaining our weight.

  10. Hi Wellness Mama, I would be very interested in trying this way of living as I am absolutely wanting to achieve optimal health for my family. I’m just a little concerned by the low-carb and no grain element. I have been blessed with a fast metabolism and I find that if I miss carbs even in one meal, I run very low on energy and can’t function properly. Added to this I am currently breast feeding and needing to eat even more. I love my meat, fish, dairy, fruit and veggies but I find they don’t fill me up and keep me going without a portion of potato, rice, pasta etc. what can you suggest as an alternative?

    • Try adding more fats and dsrker vegetables in. I have the same problem you do with a fast metabolism, and I’ve found that eggs, olive oil, avacados and vegetables like spinach and broccoli help me feel significantly fuller. A couple of my friends have also noticed this, it might be worth a shot for you:)

      • Hi just want to thank you for this
        this may help me too
        coz I’m the same
        I never knew maybe it’s coz I have a fast metabolism (I knew I had it ) but I always blamed it on greed I don’t have that but is till feel guilty when I eat
        it’s good to know I can stop blaming myself for eating
        but thank you
        I do believe that broccoli usually does fill me and I’m starting to buy those so will try them before turning to the potatoes for help 😉 x

        • Lol I did mean those things you listed Not the broccoli I already buy those lol
          I mean Avacado etc and will be eating oils without cooking them
          so will see how I feel with them before turning to my potato needs 😉

  11. I’m wondering what type of sweetener you recommend. Ive been using a lot of stevia/xylitol/truvia over the past year. I have an blood clotting antibody that causes miscarriage but was able to have my 6 th child with the help of baby aspirin and heparin. I had 4 mc in between #5 and #6. I recently miscarried again on all my meds. I’ve read conflicting info on stevia. Recently, I read it can cause implantation issues for women that already have those tendencies. I’m pondering quitting stevia and switching to coconut sugar since it seems to have less impact than regular sugar on blood sugar levels. What are your thoughts?

  12. What about fruits? Can I have them and if so what are best for losing weight?

  13. Please tell us about fruits. I make smoothies in the morning with Greek yogurt, frozen fruit, flax seeds and a little juice and find them making me feel better overall in the morning. Thoughts?

  14. since when chocolate is consider as good food and grains not?

  15. I’m in. I’m looking forward to taking on this 60 day challenge.

  16. Thank you so much for all that you share. Your website is such an inspiration, and truly keeps me motivated. Whenever I feel I am deviating from a healthy lifestyle, I reread much of the material from this site and it positively influences my state of mind. I am genuinely grateful to have found the WellnessMama website; what a treasure!
    Thank you, thank you, thank you Katie!

    • Thank you so much, and thanks for reading!

  17. I’m 5’8″, 146lbs. My question is, with this eating lifestyle, can I still workout? Lift weights? I want to gain weight for muscle, not lose it.

    Will I require slightly more vegetable intake, an extra meal..?

    I enjoy a 20 minute exercise before an intense 10-15 minute workout, followed by a 10 minute exercise to cool my body down. Will this require and extra meal? I really want to eat healthy, I’m going to start doing so once I finish the foods in my house. I also want to gain muscle too.

    Sorry for the essay 🙂 Thank you for any responses! That includes others who workout on this diet, if you have opinions or stories please share, thank you.

  18. Awesome!Thank you for sharing this great idea. It inspires me to go for healthy wellness lifestyle than pushing myself on hard diet to get fit!

  19. I’m a 24 year old stay at home mom… after reading some of your posts about nutrition I am trying to figure out what goals would be good to have… Sounds like a goal of 100g of carbs or less, 80g of protein, and the rest in fats? If I put that in my nutrition tracker that would be a diet of just over 50% fats.. 100g.
    Does this seem like an appropriate goal?

  20. I believe that I suffer from yeast overgrowth in my body. I have had symptoms for years and it’s only getting worse. Rashy, itchy abdomen, constipation, sugar cravings, brain fog and dizziness, eye floaters, you name it, I’ve got it. Anxiety and depression are getting out if hand. I’m tired of worrying about this but overwhelmed on how to begin healing. I’ve read lots but there seems to be so many options but I want to heal naturally and any help I can get, I will take it. If you can help me get started on this new health journey with support and knowledge, I would greatly appreciate it. I’m going to be 35 soon and I don’t want to waste any more time feeling so crappy.

  21. Can you suggest me some options for the some juices which I can have but don’t gain weight ??